Category: More Sex Tips

Anal Play Does Not Make You Gay!

FACT – Most men are scared of a woman going anywhere near their ass.

What’s the big deal boys? You get turned on by playing with girls’ butts and you know most girls love it. Why can’t women repay the favor and give you some anal pleasure? Did you know men can orgasm from the prostrate gland (sometimes known as the male g-spot)?

You need to realize that a lot of women like fantasizing/playing with your ass. Personally I like playing with a man’s ass because I know how much fun I can give him. Also it’s like breaking down the last barrier. It only happens when there is a lot of trust and respect. The fact that a man let’s me play with his ass means we are comfortable with each other.

Losing your fears opens up doors! (Pun intended!)

Anal play does not make you gay!
It just means you like your butt to be played with. It would only be gay if it was a man playing with your butt (derrrrrh! 😉 ). If this is what scares you then you need to let go because you’re missing out on a whole new world of fun!

You will not be covered in poop!
There is a time and a place for anal play. You need to make sure you are showered and preferably hair free. That you don’t need to break wind or use the bathroom and if you struggle with constipation then you should think dramatically about increasing your water and fibre intake, this BTW is for more reasons than just butt play!

No pain no gain… (Only joking! 😉 )
Feeling pain is a legitimate concern but anal play does not have to be painful. There are 3 easy steps to follow… You need to stay relaxed, use plenty of lube and go slowly. If you follow these three steps there is no need at all to suffer for your pleasure.

Now we have the fear out the way we can look at the ways of stimulating your butt hole:

Rimming (licks to the butt hole)
It feels amazing and trying this can be your first step to anal pleasure. Try giving and receiving in the good old 69 position.

Finger (up your butt)
Get your woman to slide one in and curl it round to find and pleasure your prostate. Make sure she lubes up!

Anal beads
You can have a lot of fun with these. Try getting your woman to pull them out as you cum and your orgasm will be much more intense than usual. (Very good fun!).

Vibrating toys are awesome…
Give it a try. Don’t worry you are NOT gay if you play with one of these. The vibrations will stimulate your anus and massage your prostate YOU WILL ENJOY IT A LOT!

Strap on
Your woman can use one of these on you for some seriously fun role play (if you dare!). Its important to get the right strap-on!

There you go! Some advice to help you get started. Do your best to let go of your fears and it will be worth it. Anal play can increase intensity of orgasms, give you a new type of orgasm and add a whole new element to your sex life. So check out these toys and get started…

I understand that this might be scary so comment below and make sure you join our community for help, advice and encouragement.

Love

She’s Telling You What She Wants!

If you are a man reading this you need to learn one very important thing about women.

Women are much better at (and often prefer) non-verbal communication to verbal.

What do I mean by this? Women are very skilled at communicating without speaking. They are much more likely than men to communicate this way and because of this are much better than men at doing so.

Ladies, if you disagree with this just think for a moment. How many times have you sat waiting for a guy to kiss you, thinking you are making it stupidly obvious but he doesn’t make a move? Do you think that same guy would hesitate if you said, “kiss me”? Probably not!

There is a long and complicated evolutionary theory for all this that I might blog about if there is enough interest. (Let me know in the comments section below if you are interested?)… But for the sake of this argument just accept that women communicate using non-verbal signals A LOT.

Another point worth bearing in mind, relates to the point above, women sometimes forget or aren’t aware that men aren’t great at reading their signals. This leads to all sorts of confusion and miscommunication.
Think about this one for a while, it could help you out with the opposite sex in ALL aspects of your life!

What has all this got to do with sex?

Most men have very simple needs, but for women it is different. Women are complicated and have wide a range of sexual needs and desires. They all have different needs. Even the same woman will have different needs depending on what day it is. All this can make it tricky for a man who wants to satisfy one or more women!

To make it even more complicated a lot of women have this ideal fantasy of a man knowing exactly what to do to please her without needing any help or advice? Yes fellas, this is annoying and makes it even harder to learn how to turn a woman on! (You gotta love ’em though…Right? 😉)

So, the secret to learning how to turn your woman on and the secret to being the guy “that just knows what to do” is simple, powerful and very effective:

Get very good at reading her non-verbal signals

• Watch her body
• Listen to the noises she makes
• Keep an eye on her breathing
• See if her skin is flushed
• Check to see if her pupils are dilated (wide open)

Important note number one
Not all of these signals are always accurate, especially things like the size of her pupils or if her skin is flushed. BUT if you watch all of these when you are with her you will get the picture of how she is feeling.

As you practice this with one or more women, you will get a sixth sense for it. You will notice and react to any changes in her body and you will be able to use this sense to increase the amount of pleasure you give her.

Important note number two
Don’t act like some crazy scientist studying a creature from outer space! Don’t spend all your time obsessively watching every move she makes! Instead just become aware of the signals she is giving you and use them to change the way you touch her.

As you get good at this, you will be able to read all sorts from her:

• What she likes
• What she doesn’t like
• What speed she likes
• What pressure she likes

And that’s just the start, the better you get at reading her body, the more you will be able to get out of it. Not only will you be a much better lover but you will also be able to create a deeper emotional bond with the women you sleep with. She will feel more understood, more satisfied and happier with her love life. One thing I’ve learnt over time is that the happier a woman is with her sex life the more sex she wants…!

Ladies – I would love to hear your thoughts and comments below.
Guys – Hit me up with any questions or thoughts.

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Have a good one!

PS – You might want to check out this post on how to last longer and this one on how to use the deep spot to blow any woman’s mind…

12 Random Things That Make Me Horny!

I am writing this blog to give men a better understanding of just how secretly horny most women are. In my last post, women love sex, I talked about the same subject and why women suppress their true feelings. The list below shares some of the day to day experiences that I come across that get me hot and horny. As you will see some of them are very random! 🙂

If you are a man reading this, then these might surprise you. If you are a woman reading this, then you will probably have your own list so please, do me a favor and list them below in the comments section. If it helps give men a better understanding of how we work then it’s worth the effort!

In no particular order…

The harmonica: The men that usually play this beautiful instrument are old, fat and ugly. For some reason every time I hear and see them my mind will fantasize about how they would make love to me. I suddenly don’t care one bit what he looks like, he is sexy as hell to me.

A man that has just finished work: (Especially a construction worker or mechanic) I think it has something to do with them working hard all day. Usually, as soon as I see one, I have mind flashes of helping them release their tension and aching muscles.

Tractors. Yes tractors!!! – I instantly get horny from seeing one and if it’s a young farmer driving them then watch out if you’re on the road because my eyes are not where they should be!!!

Talking to hot girls: This one is really naughty of me because they probably won’t know that I swing both ways. They are chatting innocently to me all the while I am eyeing them up and imagining what it would be like to fuck them.

Bald heads: I’m a sucker for them (think Bruce Willis and Jason Statham). It must have something to do with the way they are portrayed as ‘The tough guy that will protect me’. He can be twice my age with a beer gut, but I will still look at him with a sexy curiosity if he has a sexy bald head.

Feminine men: Yes, this type of man also makes me wonder a lot. I am sure it is because they are in touch with their feminine side, which gives me hope that he will understand me on a deeper level than your average tough guy.

Chocolate: As soon as it starts to melt in my mouth, I am reminded of sex!!!

Vibrations on a bus: Before I passed my driving test I used to ride the bus everywhere I went. I’ve had plenty of experiences where my mind wanders off on a shaky bus and I cannot wait till I can get home to finish the job!

People bending over: “Would I, wouldn’t I?” I can’t help myself… It just turns me on.

Feet: I have a foot fetish (most of us love something that’s weird, right?) and I just love summer because of it! I get instant images in my mind of sucking toes when I see nice feet.

Wind between my legs: OK, so I go commando here and there for the thrill of it. I am fine most of the time until the wind hits me between my legs. It makes me think sexy thoughts and then my mind starts racing!

Music: Certain music gets me wet and takes my mind into the world of fantasy.

This should give you an idea on how many times a lady can get horny through the day! You may think this is strange, but I promise you it’s not. I may be at the top end of the scale for horny women but believe me the majority of ladies think like this.

Guys… I challenge you to find out what random things your lady finds a turn on and use it to amplify the fun you have together.

Ladies… The more of this you share with your man, the better your sex life will be. If you feel shy, then send your man this blog post to get you started.

We have a huge community that loves to delve into the world of fantasy so come and join us here.

Love