Welcome to The Secret Erotica Blog

A brief introduction to the blog and the website. If you want to know more about Secret Erotica and the team behind it then read this post…

The Secret Erotica Blog - Unleash Your Hidden Desires!Before we start, let me introduce you to the SecretErotica.com team…

Firstly there is Lola (@lola). She is the boss around here! Don’t worry, she is lovely, but be warned if you upset her you will regret it..! 😉

My name is Jack (@jack). I’m second in command, I look after the technical geekery that goes on in the background, so you get the best possible experience from this site and our community.

We are both active members of the community. We will be there to have fun, flirt and chat with you and talk about sex, fantasies and erotica. BUT, more importantly, we are there to look after you! Our promise to you is that we will provide a safe place for you to explore your fantasies and desires, away from trolls, bullies, creeps and weirdos!

Let me be very clear about this:

Our goal in life is to create the sexiest, most fun, most awesome fantasy community the Internet has ever seen!

If you are interested in sex, desire, fantasy and erotica AND you know how to treat people with respect you are very, very welcome.

If you are a troll, a bully or an angry person who thinks it’s acceptable to behave aggressively towards other people, you are NOT welcome. Don’t waste your time by joining, as soon as you misbehave you will be blocked for life.

When Lola and I created Secret Erotica, the first thing we did was create a philosophy, a collection of values and goals that would direct all future work with Secret Erotica:

“We intend to build a website that is open minded, fun to use, female friendly, sexy and exciting.
It will be a welcoming interactive community that is safe, non-judgmental and supportive. We will provide informative, inspirational articles and blog posts to improve the sex lives of our users.”

Note – Why female friendly? Of course men are very welcome but we want to make sure women feel safe here. Women find it hard to find a sexy place online where they don’t get harassed. Unfortunately there are some very angry and/or creepy men online trawling through all the adult communities and creating bad vibes. (THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN HERE!) So we embedded into our ethos from day one the idea that if we create a great place for women to be sexy then not only will the women benefit from this but also the men.

The Blog

This blog is going to be a lot of fun! Both Lola and I will be using it to let our hair down, chat and express our more personal experiences, opinions and advice. We are both passionate about experiencing and encouraging great sex lives, both for ourselves and our community, so we will keep an eye out for any cutting-edge information and share it with you here. We will also be featuring blogs from some of our most trusted and valuable members. We feel it’s only right that those who contribute to our site get the opportunity to share their own thoughts and passions.

Lola and I hope you are as excited about this new sexy community as we are. If so, and you would like to help build something really special then here’s a couple of things you can do to help…

1. Share this blog post with anyone you think might be interested.
2. Hook up with us on Twitter, Facebook, Lola’s personal Facebook and G+ to stay in touch.
3. Tell everyone and anyone about this website.
4. Most importantly of all go and enjoy the community!
4. The best thing you can do is jump right in, get involved, and have lots of fun!

That’s about it for our first ever blog post. Feel free to have a good look around the site, we have a ton of interesting articles on sex and fantasies for you to enjoy.

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Have a good one!

Clitoral Stimulation or Vaginal?

Do you prefer clit or vaginal stimulation? If you are a guy do you know which you lady prefers and why?

Which is Better for women?

Having slept with lots of women and also spoken to lots of my female friends about this it seems to me that most women tend to prefer clitoral stimulation over vaginal. This seems to be especially true if they want to have an orgasm.

I think this is because most women find it easier to have a clitoral orgasm rather than vaginal. Perhaps this is just the way their bodies work? But perhaps it is also down to society and the information passed around in sex books and magazines etc.

I also think its easier for girls to use their clits because that’s the first sort of thing you come too when you reach down their exploring. The g-spot is harder to access and often you need a toy to hit it properly.

Female stimulationIn my experience it is also much more likely for a guy to use clitoral stimulation to make a woman reach orgasm than vaginal. I’m not sure but maybe a part of this comes from the fact that there was during the earlier years of feminism a huge drive to teach guys what the clitoris was and how to touch it to give a woman an orgasm.

Now, while I think that clitoral orgasms (either as masturbation or given by a lover) are great, for me personally they are only one part of the picture.
I think vaginal orgasms are just as important (if not more so), and with a little knowledge and some practice they are no harder to give/have.

I discovered how to have vaginal orgasms in my late teens, I was 18 if I remember correctly. I was playing around with a vibe exploring and I found the right spot., then I just kept on going until I came. I kept on practicing (which was a lot of fun tee-hee 😉 ) until I found them easy to have. After this it became easy to have them with my boyfriend and that was when the fun really started!

If you don’t have vaginal orgasms I want to tell you that they are amazing and it is well worth learning how to have them. All women can have them, you just have to believe and practice until you get there.

Resources for more information:

  • If you want to give your woman both clitoral and vaginal stimulation check out this blog post on face dildos.
  • If you want to learn more about giving a woman a vaginal orgasm click here to learn about the deep spot.
  • Click here to learn more about how to have vaginal orgasms during masturbation.

If you have any questions please just ask away using the comments section below and I will get right back to you asap.

PS – Once you get vaginal orgasms mastered then you can try having combination orgasms (both clitoral and vaginal), now these really are fun!

3 Girls a Day Review

  • Dating Online AdviceDo you want to learn how to meet women online?
  • Are you sick of getting no replies or even worse bitchy put-downs?
  • Do you want to use dating sites to get laid or find love?

It’s not as easy as it sounds right? My name is Lola, I’m the owner of SecretErotica.com and I am here to help you out! 🙂 I was offered a free review copy of “3 Girls a Day” by its creator Todd Valentine. Todd’s new program claims to help you get as many women as possible from dating sites such as Match.com, OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish.

Now before you listen to my opinion on this matter you might think “why should I listen to a woman about this”? It’s a good question. After all women don’t know what it is like to be a guy struggling to get laid online right? Well normally this would be true, but there are three very good reasons why my opinion might be seriously useful to you:

As the owner of this site I see a LOT of guys joining my community trying to get laid and making just about EVERY mistake in the book. I mean I feel for them, I really do. But damn they need to check out this program to stop this stuff!

BTW do NOT join this site thinking you are going to get laid! My female members are here to read and share erotic stories NOT to get hit on by horny guy’s lol! I personally use dating sites a lot to meet guys and again I have watched guys make so many dumb mistakes that basically ruin any chance they have with me with in seconds of me coming into contact with them! I love ladies as well as men and I’ve used a few different dating sites to pull plenty of very sexy chicks.

With all that said, because of my job here at SecretErotica.com, because of my own experience with dating guys online and because of my bisexual tendencies I really can help you out. So this is my honest and detailed review of this new program. I will go into detail soon, but first I want to give you a very short and to the point review:

This product is excellent and well worth the small amount you will pay for it. I am skeptical as to whether you will get three women a day! BUT I am totally 100% confident that it will help you dramatically improve the amount of attractive women you can hook up with. If you want to discover the secret techniques Todd teaches click here to get started straight away.

Now for a more detailed review

Just who is this Todd Valentine and why should you care?

Todd Valentine ThreeTodd is a full time professional dating coach. Basically it is his job to teach guys how to get laid and/or find a hot girl to settle down with. So he knows what he is talking about and unlike some so called dating experts he walks the walk.
He manages multiple girlfriends and fuck buddies plus he uses online dating to get laid whenever he wants. You could call him a lucky guy but actually he studied and worked his ass off to learn about how to attract women and IMO that is what makes him such a good teacher. There is no theory here, it is all real wisdom that has been thoroughly field tested.

A breakdown of what you get:

So, what you need to know about 3 Girls a Day is that the level of detail Todd provides is crazy. It must have taken him so long to figure this stuff out and then create an easy to learn, quick to apply ways of teaching it. Some products I review just ooze quality and this is one of them.

  • Video training – The most powerful and important part of the program. Step by step, in-detail advice on everything from creating a profile to taking a girl home for sex.
  • Written training – The best way to learn and internalize information is to absorb it in different ways. The written version of the program really helps hammer home the most important points that you need to know.
  • Bonuses – Free bonuses to help you succeed and achieve your goals. REAL LIFE phone conversations of Todd chatting to women to help you really understand how powerful his techniques are. An interview with his smoking hot girlfriend where she says exactly how she feels about what Todd teaches.
  • 60 day, no-quibbles, full money back guarantee – To me this makes it a no-brainer. You have nothing to lose and a lot to gain!

Any down sides to the program?

I tried to find flaws in the program but I really struggled. It is very clear that he knows what he is talking about and that his knowledge comes from hard earned experience. But if I was going to criticize it I would say I’m not convinced that if you buy it you will get three women every day! But he is confident that if you do as he says you can easily do it. So I guess the only way to find out is to give it a go…

My final conclusion on 3 Girls A day

Girl onlineI think you are looking to improve your dating life. If you want to get laid using online dating sites. If you feel you deserve better than your current situation you really need to check it out.

The product is very cheap, Todd gives away a huge amount of value and in my opinion the advice he shares is worth ten times the low price he is currently charging.So take charge of your love life, get the women you deserve and step up to the next level of your life by clicking here and taking action.

Good luck!


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Plastic Pussies Hypocrisy!!!

Why is it ok for women to use plastic cocks but not for men to use plastic pussies??? Is there a double standard going on here???

For years now and especially since Sex in the City promoted the Rampant Rabbit it has been cool for women to use sex toys to pleasure themselves. Now let me be very clear, I think this is a good thing. I am not complaining about it at all.

But what I do have an issue with, is that fact that in my experience it is not socially acceptable or “cool” for a man to use a sex toy on his own. Plastic cocks seem fine for women to play with but plastic pussies still carry a stigma of being uncool, or even worse sleazy or desperate.

Boys Sex ToysIf my experience is true and this is the case it begs the question as to why is it so? Why is it acceptable for women to fuck themselves silly with a plastic cock but not the same for a guy who wants to fuck the life out of a plastic pussy?

There seems to be a double standard going on here. Is it because we assume women use toys for masturbation out of choice? While guys only use them because they are needy and desperate? If so is this fair? I think not!

I think I am right about this. I think there is a certain stigma about men using adult toys for masturbation. But I also think that this might be starting to change.

There are more fashionable brands making plastic pussies for guys. Adding slick marketing and great design to a product that has been around for a very long time. As this continues, more guys will be tempted, some of them will even admit to their friends or their girlfriends that they own one and as this happens it will slowly become normal for guys to own them.

I certainly hope this is what happens. I don’t like gender based double standards and hypocrisy in either direction. I don’t like judgment or stigma around harmless and positive sexual behaviors. I also believe that as long as no one gets hurt the more people (male, female and transgender), exploring and experimenting with their sexuality in whatever way they choose the better the world will be!

So if you are a woman why not treat your man to a plastic pussy? If you are a man have you thought about giving one a go? If so would you tell your mates or your girlfriend about it?

(We stock them here in our store if you are interested…)

Let me know what you think in the comments section below I would love to know what you think about it?

Have a good one!
PS – Check out these blog posts on the best sex toys for women here and this blog post on sex toys for boys

The Maxwell Multiple Climax Advice for Men

Guys – Learn how to have multiple orgasm without ejaculating. It’s easier than you think..!

How to have N.E.M.O’s (non ejaculatory multiple orgasms)

About a year ago I discovered a funny little website http://www.climaxwell.com/ . It claimed that men can orgasm without ejaculating. Not only that they can do it again and again, multiple times. It also claimed that this was easy to learn and didn’t take years of tantric meditation!

I have to say it did get my attention but it also raised my bullshit sensors. Anyway I decided to Male Multiple Orgasms N.E.M.O'sgive it a go and surprisingly enough not only was it true it was as easy as they claimed.

Within a few times of practicing I could easily have non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms (aka N.E.M.O.’s) whilst flying solo. It was pretty exciting and what was even better was that each orgasm I had was more intense than the last one! (By the time I got to the fifth or sixth it was a fully body, crazily intense experience).

Now I have to confess I got a bit lazy here and didn’t try it while with a woman. To take it to that next step takes more practice and as I wasn’t seeing anyone steadily I didn’t have the opportunity.

So what I am hoping is that by spreading the word via this blog post I might inspire someone else to give it a go and then will report back with their own progress…?

If you give it a go let me know how you get on. Or if you have other experience of the male multiple orgasm please feel free to share in the comments section below.

Have a good one!
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Five Things I Love Doing With a Horny Lady

I love getting naked with a confident, fun sexy lady. When I do there are some things I really like. Check them out on this post…

I love getting naked with a sexy lady. It is one of the most fun things I can think of doing. I like making them cum, I like cumming myself, I like getting kinky and I like just messing around and having a good time.

But some things I really like. Here is a list of my top 5 (in no particular order):

Getting blowjobs – I love getting blowjobs so much I wrote a blog post about it! I love the feeling, I love the fact that all I have to do is lie there and enjoy it and I love the fact that my girl is doing something purely for my pleasure. Blowjobs are awesome. Ladies, if you want to keep your man happy give him more blowjobs!

Licking pussy – Again I love going down on women so much that I wrote a blog post on why I love licking pussy! In short I love it for three main reasons. First I love making women cum, it is a very sexy power trip and it makes my cock throb with arousal. Second I love the taste of it and the fact that my face is buried so deep into the most intimate part of her body.

Fucking her in the ass – What can I say about this one? I love it! I love how tight it feels. I love how dominant it is and most of all I love the fact that it feels extra naughty! Not all women like it, which is a shame, but hey you can’t win them all!

Spanking – Such good fun and very, very sexy. I’m not really a fan of being spanked but spanking a nice curvy booty either with my hand or a good strong spanking paddle never fails to get my blood pumping.

That first few seconds when I slide my dick in! – I love fucking women but the bit I love about it most is that first sensation of stretching her pussy wide open as I slowly force my cock deeper and deeper inside her.

So, what are your favorite things to do with your sex lady friends? Comment below and join in the discussion.

Have a good one!
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