Woman on Top – Ride ’em Cowgirl!

I love being on top. I like being in control. I like teasing my man and I like being able to have the power of deciding when we both cum.

Why do I love being on top? It’s easy… I have control. No messing about, no missing the spot, no rhythm lost. Just bang, bang on my g-spot, Thank you very much!

All I need to do is move my hips until his cock hits the right spot and an orgasm is guaranteed. Personally, the right sort of fuck buddy for me is a man who will lie back and let me do my thing.

I also love watching my man ogle my boobs as they move with my rhythm. Getting transfixed with the way my body rocks and looking deep in to my eyes as my orgasm takes over. I know it turns them on, why wouldn’t it? Unless they have control issues and then they’re out the door anyway 😉 . Any decent man wants their lady to get pleasure out of sex and that is exactly what happens when I get on top.

When I’m on top it’s not just a vaginal orgasm or clitoral, it’s both at the same time… My favorite! I get to pull on his penis with the walls of my pussy and I get to grind my clitoris against him. I choose the strokes and I chose when I cum and being on top means I can cum again and again. I love multiple orgasms! In fact I can’t get enough of them. Call me greedy if you like but hey, it’s not my fault men have usually had enough after one orgasm!

I also get to chose when and how he gets to cum. There are multiple ways of getting him there and depending on how I feel and how quick I want us both to orgasm, I will chose what is best for the time. Usually after I have cum two or three times, I will decide its time for him to let go. Instead of grinding on his cock I will bounce up and down (so he gets more stimulation), I will tell him I want him to cum and then I will watch him go crazy with excitement.

All in all being on top is amazing fun. I get to feel in control. I get to cum lots of times and whenever I chose! He gets a great view of me and my boobs. I even get more control over when he cums and as us ladies know that can only be a good thing!

Ladies, if you don’t know how to have vaginal orgasms you can start by reading this detailed article on vaginal orgasms (my step by step guide). Also feel free to join our sexy community, so you can ask questions one on one.

Advice for you men – Practice kegel exercises. With practice you will be able to last a lot longer and can even join the world of multiple orgasms. All it takes is practice and following the rules. (Check out this link on ejaculation control here).

Please leave your comments I would love to know what you think of my blog?

Love
Lola

How I Discovered My Deep Spot!

The deep spot is amazing. If you don’t know what, or where it is, you NEED to read this post!!!

  • A few years ago I discovered my deep spot.
  • Well to be more accurate my boyfriend at the time discovered it for me! 

I had been seeing him for a while and we already had great sex together but this time was different, he started fingering me really deeply and hit on a spot I had never felt before. The sensations were really intense and it wasn’t long before I had a massive vaginal orgasm that left me in a hot sweaty mess! As I was recovering he looked up at me with a cheeky smile and said “you don’t know about that little spot did ya?

He was right, I didn’t but I was determined to find out more. As soon as he went to work I got my toys out and started to experiment. It wasn’t easy at first (deep spot stimulation is much easier when done by someone else) but I got there and soon got much better at it. (BTW – If you don’t know what it is then you need to read this deep spot blog post!)

Now I can use my toys to give myself intense vaginal orgasms whenever I want and it is a great addition to my sexual self-loving repertoire.

Since learning how to do it for myself I have tried to show my lovers how to do it for me, but so far none have managed. The truth is it’s not that easy at first and like most things it takes a little bit of practice to get good at it. But trust me with the deep spot it is definitely worth the effort!The Deep Spot

Months later I went back to my now ex boyfriend who first found it for me and asked him how he found out about it.
He told me he discovered it from a guy called David Shade. He has a website with a video on how to stimulate the deep spot you can check it out here…

In fact just recently I slept with a guy who hit my deep spot again and again, I asked him and he was a fan of Mr. Shade as well!

So ladies either check out this video for yourself or even better copy and paste this link and send it via email to your partner.

Men you have got to watch this video It’s the easiest, most effective, most powerful way to make a woman cum. Once you learn it you will have the knowledge and the confidence to turn any woman into a trembling mess of sexy gratitude for the feelings you can give her!

Make sure you post below once you have found the deep spot and had some fun with it.

Love
Lola

Pleasure and Pain in the Bedroom

Do you like to feel pain during foreplay and sex? Do you think you might but you aren’t sure how to give it a go, or how to bring it up with your partner…?

My Personal Take…

I’m addicted to pain in the bedroom. I can say without a doubt it increases my libido and heightens my sexual arousal A LOT. In fact I can’t get enough of it.

Here’s an interesting thing about sex and pain…I have a friend (who’s gay) that thinks it’s funny to give me agonizing “nipple cripple’s” (he twists my nipple through my clothes to make me squeal) whenever he sees me. This hurts, a lot and I don’t enjoy it! But when I am enjoying foreplay and sex then all of a sudden I’m begging my partner to do the same. In that frame of mind the exact same thing feels like a sexy tickle. Something that would normally be painful becomes arousing and pleasurable during sexual contact.

Why is this?

During sexual intercourse there are endorphins that are released in the brain. These compounds have pain killing properties which increase the threshold for pain. Consequently pain tolerance is increased during sex.

When I experience pain during sex I can’t help but think thoughts like ‘he’s hurting me but it feels so good’ or ‘I’m such a dirty bitch’. This increases my levels of arousal and gets me hornier. Don’t get me wrong, soft, sensual strokes and caresses can feel amazing but sometimes I prefer it rough and painful!

Here are some examples of play-pain that I like:

Having my hair being pulled not only increases my pleasure because of the pain but it also helps my mind fall into fantasy world that I secretly desire.

Having my nipples bitten and squeezed hard drives my libido up the wall… I can’t get enough of it.

Spanking is horny as hell. I like the pain of a good hard spanking but also love the feeling being dominated and punished for being a naughty little bitch.

Giving and receiving pain can be a great addition to any sexual relationship when done within boundaries and when both partners are aware of what is happening. Why not give it a go? Start slow and know your limits. Experiment with each other and have fun.

Click here to enter into our sexy community, so you can read some real life fantasies, meet some horny people and to share some of your experience and desires.

Love
Lola
PS – Check out our huge range of toys including spanking paddles, whips, restraints and more here…

Up the Bum No Harm Done…

A lot of men would like to experiment with anal play but are worried about appearing gay or even just too submissive. BUT it doesn’t have to be like that, lots of straight alpha guys love anal fun and you can as well

Anal Play Does Not Make You Gay!

FACT – Most men are scared of a woman going anywhere near their ass.

What’s the big deal boys? You get turned on by playing with girls’ butts and you know most girls love it. Why can’t women repay the favor and give you some anal pleasure? Did you know men can orgasm from the prostrate gland (sometimes known as the male g-spot)?

You need to realize that a lot of women like fantasizing/playing with your ass. Personally I like playing with a man’s ass because I know how much fun I can give him. Also it’s like breaking down the last barrier. It only happens when there is a lot of trust and respect. The fact that a man let’s me play with his ass means we are comfortable with each other.

Losing your fears opens up doors! (Pun intended!)

Anal play does not make you gay!
It just means you like your butt to be played with. It would only be gay if it was a man playing with your butt (derrrrrh! 😉 ). If this is what scares you then you need to let go because you’re missing out on a whole new world of fun!

You will not be covered in poop!
There is a time and a place for anal play. You need to make sure you are showered and preferably hair free. That you don’t need to break wind or use the bathroom and if you struggle with constipation then you should think dramatically about increasing your water and fibre intake, this BTW is for more reasons than just butt play!

No pain no gain… (Only joking! 😉 )
Feeling pain is a legitimate concern but anal play does not have to be painful. There are 3 easy steps to follow… You need to stay relaxed, use plenty of lube and go slowly. If you follow these three steps there is no need at all to suffer for your pleasure.

Now we have the fear out the way we can look at the ways of stimulating your butt hole:

Rimming (licks to the butt hole)
It feels amazing and trying this can be your first step to anal pleasure. Try giving and receiving in the good old 69 position.

Finger (up your butt)
Get your woman to slide one in and curl it round to find and pleasure your prostate. Make sure she lubes up!

Anal beads
You can have a lot of fun with these. Try getting your woman to pull them out as you cum and your orgasm will be much more intense than usual. (Very good fun!).

Vibrating toys are awesome…
Give it a try. Don’t worry you are NOT gay if you play with one of these. The vibrations will stimulate your anus and massage your prostate YOU WILL ENJOY IT A LOT!

Strap on
Your woman can use one of these on you for some seriously fun role play (if you dare!). Its important to get the right strap-on!

There you go! Some advice to help you get started. Do your best to let go of your fears and it will be worth it. Anal play can increase intensity of orgasms, give you a new type of orgasm and add a whole new element to your sex life. So check out these toys and get started…

I understand that this might be scary so comment below and make sure you join our community for help, advice and encouragement.

Love
Lola