Women Love Sex

Do women love sex? Do they love it more than men? How often do they think about it? Find out my thoughts on this and lots more…

Just How Dirty Are Us Ladies?

Most women, deep down want to be sexy, naughty and much more sexually active then they dare to admit.

Women quite often deprive themselves of their sexuality because society tells them that they shouldn’t express it freely and openly. Women are also told that they are only there for men’s gratification and their only role as a woman is to satisfy their man rather than to be a sexual being in their own right.

There is a myth about sex that damages both men and women. This myth is subconsciously reinforced by both sexes. This myth comes from men’s fear of women’s sexuality and women’s fear of being classed as “easy”.

This myth appears in various forms like ‘men like sex more than women’ ‘women only have sex to please men’ and my favorite one ‘nice women don’t like sex’ yeah right! I am yet to find a woman that agrees with this myth. The truth is a lot of women have a much higher sex drive than a lot of men. I will repeat that just to make sure its very clear…Most women love sex more than most men.

Men’s fear
Men are conditioned to think that an ideal woman will only ever be as dirty as he wants or feels comfortable with. This conditioning creates fear of the reality and this is one of the reasons that this silly myth still exists. Men are also conditioned (in varying degrees) to judge women who are open about their enjoyment of sex, especially if they sleep with a lot of different partners.

Women’s fear
Women feel judged by society so lie (even to themselves!!) and repress their true sexual feelings and desires so they can meet men’s/society’s expectations. This sexual repression is very unhealthy. At best women can miss out on lots of great sex at worst it can cause mental and emotional issues such as anxiety or depression.

We need to stop this silly myth:

Men – You need to grow a bigger pair of balls and accept the reality that most women love sex more than you and will try anything to feed their sexual desires. If you become the type of man that a woman knows won’t judge her for her desires but instead will only encourage them then she will be at her sexiest with you. Of course you will reap the rewards for being clever enough not to follow the BS society chucks at us all.

Women – You need to be brave and help stop this myth. Be as honest as you can with your partners and express your sexuality freely. If they can’t handle it then you have to ask the question, are they right for you? The wrong partners will quickly disappear and the ones that want to help free your sexuality (the real men) will replace them. That is of course as long as you keep an eye out for the good ones!

So if you haven’t done so already you need to accept the fact that most women love sex more than most men. This can either be liberating or scary or both depending on what you choose to do with this fact. Embracing this knowledge and using it to increase your personal levels of satisfaction can be liberating for everyone involved.

Our sexy community is full of fun and like-minded people that welcome newbies with open arms so feel free to join us here.


Welcome to The Secret Erotica Blog

A brief introduction to the blog and the website. If you want to know more about Secret Erotica and the team behind it then read this post…

The Secret Erotica Blog - Unleash Your Hidden Desires!Before we start, let me introduce you to the SecretErotica.com team…

Firstly there is Lola (@lola). She is the boss around here! Don’t worry, she is lovely, but be warned if you upset her you will regret it..! 😉

My name is Jack (@jack). I’m second in command, I look after the technical geekery that goes on in the background, so you get the best possible experience from this site and our community.

We are both active members of the community. We will be there to have fun, flirt and chat with you and talk about sex, fantasies and erotica. BUT, more importantly, we are there to look after you! Our promise to you is that we will provide a safe place for you to explore your fantasies and desires, away from trolls, bullies, creeps and weirdos!

Let me be very clear about this:

Our goal in life is to create the sexiest, most fun, most awesome fantasy community the Internet has ever seen!

If you are interested in sex, desire, fantasy and erotica AND you know how to treat people with respect you are very, very welcome.

If you are a troll, a bully or an angry person who thinks it’s acceptable to behave aggressively towards other people, you are NOT welcome. Don’t waste your time by joining, as soon as you misbehave you will be blocked for life.

When Lola and I created Secret Erotica, the first thing we did was create a philosophy, a collection of values and goals that would direct all future work with Secret Erotica:

“We intend to build a website that is open minded, fun to use, female friendly, sexy and exciting.
It will be a welcoming interactive community that is safe, non-judgmental and supportive. We will provide informative, inspirational articles and blog posts to improve the sex lives of our users.”

Note – Why female friendly? Of course men are very welcome but we want to make sure women feel safe here. Women find it hard to find a sexy place online where they don’t get harassed. Unfortunately there are some very angry and/or creepy men online trawling through all the adult communities and creating bad vibes. (THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN HERE!) So we embedded into our ethos from day one the idea that if we create a great place for women to be sexy then not only will the women benefit from this but also the men.

The Blog

This blog is going to be a lot of fun! Both Lola and I will be using it to let our hair down, chat and express our more personal experiences, opinions and advice. We are both passionate about experiencing and encouraging great sex lives, both for ourselves and our community, so we will keep an eye out for any cutting-edge information and share it with you here. We will also be featuring blogs from some of our most trusted and valuable members. We feel it’s only right that those who contribute to our site get the opportunity to share their own thoughts and passions.

Lola and I hope you are as excited about this new sexy community as we are. If so, and you would like to help build something really special then here’s a couple of things you can do to help…

1. Share this blog post with anyone you think might be interested.
2. Hook up with us on Twitter, Facebook, Lola’s personal Facebook and G+ to stay in touch.
3. Tell everyone and anyone about this website.
4. Most importantly of all go and enjoy the community!
4. The best thing you can do is jump right in, get involved, and have lots of fun!

That’s about it for our first ever blog post. Feel free to have a good look around the site, we have a ton of interesting articles on sex and fantasies for you to enjoy.

To get the most out of the site, why not Sign Up Now for Your Own FREE Membership to the Sexiest Community Online!

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Have a good one!