Clitoral Stimulation or Vaginal?

Do you prefer clit or vaginal stimulation? If you are a guy do you know which you lady prefers and why?

Which is Better for women?

Having slept with lots of women and also spoken to lots of my female friends about this it seems to me that most women tend to prefer clitoral stimulation over vaginal. This seems to be especially true if they want to have an orgasm.

I think this is because most women find it easier to have a clitoral orgasm rather than vaginal. Perhaps this is just the way their bodies work? But perhaps it is also down to society and the information passed around in sex books and magazines etc.

I also think its easier for girls to use their clits because that’s the first sort of thing you come too when you reach down their exploring. The g-spot is harder to access and often you need a toy to hit it properly.

Female stimulationIn my experience it is also much more likely for a guy to use clitoral stimulation to make a woman reach orgasm than vaginal. I’m not sure but maybe a part of this comes from the fact that there was during the earlier years of feminism a huge drive to teach guys what the clitoris was and how to touch it to give a woman an orgasm.

Now, while I think that clitoral orgasms (either as masturbation or given by a lover) are great, for me personally they are only one part of the picture.
I think vaginal orgasms are just as important (if not more so), and with a little knowledge and some practice they are no harder to give/have.

I discovered how to have vaginal orgasms in my late teens, I was 18 if I remember correctly. I was playing around with a vibe exploring and I found the right spot., then I just kept on going until I came. I kept on practicing (which was a lot of fun tee-hee 😉 ) until I found them easy to have. After this it became easy to have them with my boyfriend and that was when the fun really started!

If you don’t have vaginal orgasms I want to tell you that they are amazing and it is well worth learning how to have them. All women can have them, you just have to believe and practice until you get there.

Resources for more information:

  • If you want to give your woman both clitoral and vaginal stimulation check out this blog post on face dildos.
  • If you want to learn more about giving a woman a vaginal orgasm click here to learn about the deep spot.
  • Click here to learn more about how to have vaginal orgasms during masturbation.

If you have any questions please just ask away using the comments section below and I will get right back to you asap.

Love
Lola
PS – Once you get vaginal orgasms mastered then you can try having combination orgasms (both clitoral and vaginal), now these really are fun!

Expert Advice on How to Lick Pussy Properly

Women are complicated sexual creatures and if you don’t know what you are doing turning them on can be tricky. Don’t worry, just follow these simple steps and learn how to blow her mind every time…

[vc_row][vc_column width=”2/3″][vc_column_text]My name is Lola and the first thing you need to know is that I love the ladies just as much as I love guys. When I am with a woman one of my favorite things to do is lick her pussy. It really turns me on. I love being in control. I love the sheer power of it. I love watching her hot body writhe with pleasure. Most of all I love making her cum (again and again and again!). This means that not only do I know what it feels like to have my own licked, I also know exactly how to eat pussy and give any woman an immediate rush of intense sexual pleasure.

If you want to discover the best way to go down on a woman and totally blow her mind you have definitely landed in precisely the right place! So, let’s get down to it …

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Lola’s Guide to Licking Pussy Like a BOSS!

A common myth – First of all, I want to address a very common myth about girl-on-girl sex. While it is no doubt true that women know what other women want, and to a certain extent this also means they are better at turning each other on, it does NOT mean they are naturally born with the worlds best pussy-licking skills! Everyone needs to learn the correct techniques – and practice them – if they truly want to become adept in the sensual art of cunnilingus.

So, whether you are a man or a woman, the following 7 tried and tested steps will help take you to the next level as an ecstatic lover and pro pussy licker!

Step One – It’s all about setting the right mood. Women need to be in the right mood to enjoy sex. Now the classic routine of a nice bath, candles, music, etc. can do this and that will work very well. Helping a woman to wind down from the stresses of everyday life and slip into a more relaxed and sexy frame of mind is great. But it can take a long time!!! What about if you just want a quickie or haven’t got time for candles and a bath?

QUICK TIP: A woman can be turned on very quickly using the right skills. Dirty talk is one of the most powerful ways of getting a woman very horny, very quickly. Just try whispering “I want to taste your pussy and lick it until you cum again and again” and see how she reacts!

Step Two – Pay attention to her whole body as you warm her up. The best way to get a woman highly aroused is by paying attention to her entire body, not just the obvious erogenous zones. Every part of her body can be used to arouse her if stimulated in the right way. So spend some time getting to know her body and you will reap the rewards.

Learn how to lick pussy like an expertAgain, there is a BUT… If you are in a rush and just want to make her cum very quickly, zone straight in on her pussy and nothing else. This will only work if she is already feeling horny so make sure you use some dirty talk to get her ready to go.

Step Three – Tease, tease, tease. Women love being teased. The more you tease them the more they love it. Just remember this as you go down on her. Don’t be too predictable; don’t make it obvious about when your tongue will reach her clit. Make her wait for that sensation, even make her beg if you like!

Step Four – Licking her clit. As a woman, I can tell you that having my clit licked feels AMAZING. So it’s worth getting it right and, luckily for us pussylickers, it’s very easy to do!

My personal favorite is a slow, steady, up and down, flat tongued, lapping motion of the whole of the clit (not just the tip). This feels great for the woman, also you don’t need to be too precise (as her hips move with pleasure it can be easy to get lost) plus it’s easy on the tongue, jaw and neck. Note: Sometimes a long pussy licking session can be a bit painful!

Step Five – Slip in a finger. By fingering her when you are licking her clit you expand and increase the amount of pleasure she feels by at least twice as much. BUT it takes more concentration to get the rhythm right and can make you lose track if you’re not careful. If you’re a beginner, I suggest practicing just licking her clit until you find this easy and then adding a finger (or two). You can fuck her with your fingers (a simple in-out motion) or you can work her G-spot – it’s all up to you!

Step Six – Bringing her to orgasm. OK, so you’ve got her in the mood, you’ve explored her body, you’ve teased her and now it’s time to make her cum. Maintain a steady rhythm with your tongue and fingers. Watch her body and listen to the noises she makes for signals of what works and what doesn’t. Do more of what works and trust her signals. Her body will let you know how to make her cum. As the intensity builds, increase the tempo and the pressure. KEEP GOING.

Sometimes it can take a woman a long time to cum so just keep going. As long as you continue to get signals that she is enjoying it, just don’t stop and she will cum. You will know she has reached orgasm by the fact that her body starts to spasm wildly. After this she may need you to stop touching her clit, as it goes highly sensitive for a while, immediately after cumming.

Step Seven – What if it doesn’t work? If you don’t manage to make her cum, it is probably either one of two things. 1.) She wasn’t in the right mood, or 2.) You didn’t provide enough necessary stimulation that her body needs. Talking solves the first one of these; she might have things on her mind, which means it’s impossible for her to relax enough to cum. The second challenge can also be overcome with talking and then lots of practice. Find out what you did right, what could have been better and what she would like you to try next time. LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS, take her advice on board and give it another go. Like all skills, you will improve over time.

One Final Tip – The most important thing is to enjoy the process. A really big turn off is when someone is too focused on the result and not enjoying the process. Remember, this is meant to be a sensual, pleasurable experience for both of you – not some exam you have to pass!

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  • How to Finger Her Pussy and Give Her INSANE Full Body Orgasms
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Love
Lola

PS – Remember, you will get better at going down on her with practice. I don’t know about you, but for me personally, learning how to lick pussy is one thing that I’m always very, VERY happy to practice and improve on!
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Do women like anal sex?

Most guys really want to try anal sex with the female partners. But not all women seem that keen. Why is this and what can the guys do about it?

Have you ever wondered… Do women enjoy anal sex?

In my experience the answer to this question is complicated so lets break it down a bit.

My opinion is that:

  • Some women LOVE it.
  • Some women like it but prefer other types of
    sexy fun.
  • Some women would like it if they tried it but for some reason don’t want too (more on this later).
  • Some women will never try it, so they will never know if they enjoy it or not!

If you want to try anal fun with your female partner there are a few things you can do. First of all and this is stupidly obvious but I’ll say it anyway, if she already knows she likes it then you can just go for it and enjoy it! Don’t worry about it being dirty (its not if you do it right), just GO FOR IT!

If she likes it but just not as much as other types of sex you can use toys and skills to make anal sex much more pleasurable for her. (Again more on this later).

How to get a woman to try it.

If your lady isn’t sure about giving it a go there are a few things you can try to encourage her.

  1. Use anal sex in fantasies. Send her naughty text and emails and slowly introduce more and more anal play into the stories. As she gets turned on by this she will be much more likely to want to give it a go.
  2. Start off very slowly. When you are going down on her start by tickling her butt. Tease it a lot, especially when she is cumming. Once she gets used to that, try slipping a very well lubed finger inside her. Slide it in and out (at the same speed you lick her pussy) and she will love it.
  3. Just keep going with these simple techniques and be patient. Don’t expect her to beg you to fuck her in the ass after one finger session! As she starts to both fantasize about, and experience pleasure with anal play, she will become more and more interested in trying anal sex for real.
  4. Let her do it to you. Let her put a finger or two inside you. This will show her that it is not dirty, that it’s fun and that you are open minded enough to not judge her for giving it a go.

How to help a woman enjoy it

Once she is keen to give it a go, use the tips and techniques to make it go well for you both.

  1. Encourage her to go to the bathroom first. That way she wont worry too much about it being dirty.
  2. Reassure her. Most women worry. They worry about being dirty. They worry about not being sexy or attractive enough and they worry about being too slutty. Reassure her that what you are doing is just a really fun sexy experiment and that it turns you on A LOT.
  3. Make sure she knows what’s coming… Don’t just ram it up her back-end without any warning! You don’t have to give her a full run down of what you are going to do, just make sure it’s not a surprise.
  4. Whenever you are doing anything anal you need to use lots of lube. The anus doesn’t create its own natural lubrication like the pussy does so get the lube out and slap it all over the place. (The more the better here…Trust me on this one, she will thank you for it).
  5. Open her up with some butt plugs or small vibes. This helps her relax and enjoy the pleasurable sensations rather than just feeling pain and no pleasure. The idea is you start off with a finger or two, then you use a butt plug then finally your cock.
  6. Go slowly at first. Do not think you can fuck her in the ass like some hardcore porn star. Ease your cock in very, very slowly and make sure she is ok before you start to go harder and faster.
  7. Encourage her to use a vibe on her clit to give her even more pleasure.

Finally….

Make sure you have your check list of essential tools and equipment

There you go! Remember most women do like anal fun, it just takes a skillful lover to help them enjoy it (and take them to a whole new level of kinky pleasure).

Love
Lola
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What turns me on about the opposite sex – A woman’s perspective

I love men. Not just the rugged handsome ones but all types of men. Their personalities can be sexy, the jobs they do can be sexy and even the type of musical instrument they play can all get me hot and bothered…

When it comes to my attraction levels with men I find things change the older I get.

While looks still do matter to me, they are much less important than they used to be. I don’t know if this is because I’m less shallow or just because my tastes have changed but it’s the way it is and I’m very happy with it!

Here is a list of some of the random things I find attractive in the men I meet, date or just perv at from afar! 😉

  1. Personality can be so much more attractive than looks. I know some guys find this hard to believe but for me it is 100% true. A confident man or even better a man who is confident and funny is a huge turn on, no matter what he looks like.
  2. Hairy chests! I love them, As soon as I see one I find myself imagining what it Hairy Chestwould be like to nuzzle up against it after hot steamy sex.
  3. Masculinity. Before I decide to sleep with a man I will picture myself in their arms. If the image makes me feel feminine and safe this is very sexy. He doesn’t have to have huge muscly arms but I do prefer them to be masculine in some way.
  4. Men’s chests in general…I love them!
  5. Bald heads…Phwoar!
  6. Big strong chunky legs. I live in the UK and over here we have some very sexy rugby players with nice big muscly thighs…Yum yum!
  7. More on personality. I pay attention to the way he talks to me, if he wont let me finish or talks over me it’s a no-no.
    If a guy listens to me and I feel I can talk to him honestly and feel a connection it is very attractive.
  8. Subtle dominance. I love it if he puts me in my place. I might be cheeky on purpose or I might say something without realizing it. If he calls me out on it, then it’s instantly a strong turn on. (Note I do not like domineering men but I do like men who don’t stand for any BS).
  9.  Nice teeth and lips are very hot and make me think about kissing and thinking about kissing makes me think about fucking and so it goes on…!
  10. If they are good kissers this makes me find their mouths even more attractive.
  11. Having a clean body, clean cock, tidied up and smelling nice
  12. Knowing what he wants. A man who knows what he wants and gets it is a major point of attraction.
  13. That super cool vibe. If he is comfortable in his own skin, I find it magnetic and want to spend more and more time with him
  14. The fact that they have a dick. I love dicks and just thinking about a man’s dick gets me thinking about what it would be like to feel it inside me.

Well I was going to stop but I got carried away!

So what do you think of my list? Do you have anything to add?

Love
Lola
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Can men and women be friends? A woman’s perspective

A woman’s perspective on the age old question of can men and women be friends without sexual attraction or even love getting in the way of the friendship…

There is a widely held belief that with both men and women that members of the opposite sex cannot be just friends. That platonic relationships between a man and a woman are impossible.

In my opinion this is a great shame as it dramatically reduces the amount of friends someone can have. Also there can be something very special in friendship between a woman and a man and to totally rule that out seems crazy to me!

So clearly I don’t buy into this belief but I can understand where it comes from.

For years I thought it was possible to have purely platonic friendships with myself and my guy friends, but a close male friend convinced me that this wasn’t accurate.

What he explained to me and what I’ve since experienced is that there will always be an element of attraction or sexual curiosity from one, the other or both people involved. (Maybe at the same or different times in the relationship).

Where I differ from the people that think men and women should not be friends is that I think it is perfectly fine for friends to experience some sort of attraction at some time during their friendships. I think this is normal, natural and nothing to stress about.

Well I would qualify that slightly. Its nothing to worry about in a healthy respectful friendship where neither side has ulterior motives, like wrecking a relationship for example.

I think what is more important than the existence of attraction is the way the friends behave with each other.

If both men and women in this type of friendship are very clear about the signals they send out, this is a great start. Especially if one person is aware that the other has feelings for them.

For example if I have a male friend who I know finds me attractive I would be careful how I behave with him. I wouldn’t sit on his lap at a party or do a sexy dance in front of him when I hit the dance floor.

(I found learning how to do this a bit tricky. Sometimes I would be doing things that I thought were platonic but were misread by others. So now I tread carefully but try not to stress too much about it).

That way as long as I send out only very clear platonic signals I have done nothing to encourage the attraction he feels for me. Anything else is his responsibility and beyond my control.

Of course it is really important not to let these situations get out of hand. If the attraction gets too much a good friendship can be lost and that is always a sad thing when it occurs.

It is also important if there is a partner involved in one or both sides of the friendship. Partners not involved in the friendship need to feel loved and respected as well. This can be hard if they know their partner’s friend is in love with them!

So to sum this up….

What I am saying is that I think men and women can and should be friends.

What I am also saying is that this can be complicated and as such needs some thought and discussion.

As always there is always room for learning, growth and good communication nearly always makes things better.

What do you think about this? Do you have anything to add?

Love
Lola
PS – Jack blogged about this from a man’s perspective, check it out here…

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