Clitoral Stimulation or Vaginal?

Do you prefer clit or vaginal stimulation? If you are a guy do you know which you lady prefers and why?

Which is Better for women?

Having slept with lots of women and also spoken to lots of my female friends about this it seems to me that most women tend to prefer clitoral stimulation over vaginal. This seems to be especially true if they want to have an orgasm.

I think this is because most women find it easier to have a clitoral orgasm rather than vaginal. Perhaps this is just the way their bodies work? But perhaps it is also down to society and the information passed around in sex books and magazines etc.

I also think its easier for girls to use their clits because that’s the first sort of thing you come too when you reach down their exploring. The g-spot is harder to access and often you need a toy to hit it properly.

Female stimulationIn my experience it is also much more likely for a guy to use clitoral stimulation to make a woman reach orgasm than vaginal. I’m not sure but maybe a part of this comes from the fact that there was during the earlier years of feminism a huge drive to teach guys what the clitoris was and how to touch it to give a woman an orgasm.

Now, while I think that clitoral orgasms (either as masturbation or given by a lover) are great, for me personally they are only one part of the picture.
I think vaginal orgasms are just as important (if not more so), and with a little knowledge and some practice they are no harder to give/have.

I discovered how to have vaginal orgasms in my late teens, I was 18 if I remember correctly. I was playing around with a vibe exploring and I found the right spot., then I just kept on going until I came. I kept on practicing (which was a lot of fun tee-hee 😉 ) until I found them easy to have. After this it became easy to have them with my boyfriend and that was when the fun really started!

If you don’t have vaginal orgasms I want to tell you that they are amazing and it is well worth learning how to have them. All women can have them, you just have to believe and practice until you get there.

Resources for more information:

  • If you want to give your woman both clitoral and vaginal stimulation check out this blog post on face dildos.
  • If you want to learn more about giving a woman a vaginal orgasm click here to learn about the deep spot.
  • Click here to learn more about how to have vaginal orgasms during masturbation.

If you have any questions please just ask away using the comments section below and I will get right back to you asap.

PS – Once you get vaginal orgasms mastered then you can try having combination orgasms (both clitoral and vaginal), now these really are fun!

Five Things I Love Doing With a Horny Lady

I love getting naked with a confident, fun sexy lady. When I do there are some things I really like. Check them out on this post…

I love getting naked with a sexy lady. It is one of the most fun things I can think of doing. I like making them cum, I like cumming myself, I like getting kinky and I like just messing around and having a good time.

But some things I really like. Here is a list of my top 5 (in no particular order):

Getting blowjobs – I love getting blowjobs so much I wrote a blog post about it! I love the feeling, I love the fact that all I have to do is lie there and enjoy it and I love the fact that my girl is doing something purely for my pleasure. Blowjobs are awesome. Ladies, if you want to keep your man happy give him more blowjobs!

Licking pussy – Again I love going down on women so much that I wrote a blog post on why I love licking pussy! In short I love it for three main reasons. First I love making women cum, it is a very sexy power trip and it makes my cock throb with arousal. Second I love the taste of it and the fact that my face is buried so deep into the most intimate part of her body.

Fucking her in the ass – What can I say about this one? I love it! I love how tight it feels. I love how dominant it is and most of all I love the fact that it feels extra naughty! Not all women like it, which is a shame, but hey you can’t win them all!

Spanking – Such good fun and very, very sexy. I’m not really a fan of being spanked but spanking a nice curvy booty either with my hand or a good strong spanking paddle never fails to get my blood pumping.

That first few seconds when I slide my dick in! – I love fucking women but the bit I love about it most is that first sensation of stretching her pussy wide open as I slowly force my cock deeper and deeper inside her.

So, what are your favorite things to do with your sex lady friends? Comment below and join in the discussion.

Have a good one!
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Welcome to The Secret Erotica Blog

A brief introduction to the blog and the website. If you want to know more about Secret Erotica and the team behind it then read this post…

The Secret Erotica Blog - Unleash Your Hidden Desires!Before we start, let me introduce you to the team…

Firstly there is Lola (@lola). She is the boss around here! Don’t worry, she is lovely, but be warned if you upset her you will regret it..! 😉

My name is Jack (@jack). I’m second in command, I look after the technical geekery that goes on in the background, so you get the best possible experience from this site and our community.

We are both active members of the community. We will be there to have fun, flirt and chat with you and talk about sex, fantasies and erotica. BUT, more importantly, we are there to look after you! Our promise to you is that we will provide a safe place for you to explore your fantasies and desires, away from trolls, bullies, creeps and weirdos!

Let me be very clear about this:

Our goal in life is to create the sexiest, most fun, most awesome fantasy community the Internet has ever seen!

If you are interested in sex, desire, fantasy and erotica AND you know how to treat people with respect you are very, very welcome.

If you are a troll, a bully or an angry person who thinks it’s acceptable to behave aggressively towards other people, you are NOT welcome. Don’t waste your time by joining, as soon as you misbehave you will be blocked for life.

When Lola and I created Secret Erotica, the first thing we did was create a philosophy, a collection of values and goals that would direct all future work with Secret Erotica:

“We intend to build a website that is open minded, fun to use, female friendly, sexy and exciting.
It will be a welcoming interactive community that is safe, non-judgmental and supportive. We will provide informative, inspirational articles and blog posts to improve the sex lives of our users.”

Note – Why female friendly? Of course men are very welcome but we want to make sure women feel safe here. Women find it hard to find a sexy place online where they don’t get harassed. Unfortunately there are some very angry and/or creepy men online trawling through all the adult communities and creating bad vibes. (THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN HERE!) So we embedded into our ethos from day one the idea that if we create a great place for women to be sexy then not only will the women benefit from this but also the men.

The Blog

This blog is going to be a lot of fun! Both Lola and I will be using it to let our hair down, chat and express our more personal experiences, opinions and advice. We are both passionate about experiencing and encouraging great sex lives, both for ourselves and our community, so we will keep an eye out for any cutting-edge information and share it with you here. We will also be featuring blogs from some of our most trusted and valuable members. We feel it’s only right that those who contribute to our site get the opportunity to share their own thoughts and passions.

Lola and I hope you are as excited about this new sexy community as we are. If so, and you would like to help build something really special then here’s a couple of things you can do to help…

1. Share this blog post with anyone you think might be interested.
2. Hook up with us on Twitter, Facebook, Lola’s personal Facebook and G+ to stay in touch.
3. Tell everyone and anyone about this website.
4. Most importantly of all go and enjoy the community!
4. The best thing you can do is jump right in, get involved, and have lots of fun!

That’s about it for our first ever blog post. Feel free to have a good look around the site, we have a ton of interesting articles on sex and fantasies for you to enjoy.

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Have a good one!

The First Secret Erotica Promo Video!

Check out the first Secret Erotica promo video… It is awesome!

Hi there.

This is just a very short blog post to introduce the first Secret Erotica promo video.

@lola and I are both super excited to have this live and uploaded to YouTube.

Sometime very soon, we will be sharing this all over Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and lots of other social media networks to bring tons more sexy members to the site.

Until then feel free to take a sneak preview and check it out below… Enjoy!

Have a good one!
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Woohoo… We Have Another New Video!

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