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The Secret Spots Inside a Woman

Learn exactly how to give a woman a vaginal orgasm with no clitoral stimulation. Learn these skills and she will love you forever..!

Giving Her a Vaginal Orgasm

Some interesting facts about men, women and vaginal orgasm:

Most people have heard about the G-spot. Some know where to find it. Some even know how to use it to give a woman an orgasm.
Very few people have heard of The Deep Spot. Even fewer know where it is. Even fewer know how to use it to make a woman cum.
Very few women know how to give themselves a vaginal orgasm.
Very few men know how to make women cum vaginally.

Why is this even important?

Clitoral orgasms are GREAT but for most women vaginal orgasms are MUCH, MUCH BETTER! They are more intense, more powerful and more satisfying (for most women, most of the time).

So, for men if you want to give your women deeply powerful, and satisfying sex you NEED to learn how to give her vaginal orgasms.

Ladies, trust me on this one, if you’re not cumming from vaginal stimulation you need to! It feels fucking amazing, I much, much prefer it to just cumming from my clit and when I combine the two together my pleasure goes off the scale!

The G-spot

About two inches inside the front wall of the vagina. This special little love button likes firm pressure from a cock, a toy or fingers.

The Deep Spot

About as deep inside the front of a lady’s pussy as fingers can reach. It can be stimulated with a cock, toys or a partner’s fingers, but it’s not easy to hit it DIY (without a toy).

Anal Orgasms

The right sort of anal stimulation can hit the Deep Spot from the back and give powerful anal orgasms.

Combination Orgasms

All of these spots can be used in combination with each or the clitoris to give even more powerful and satisfying orgasmic experiences.

Some useful links:

Both in this blog and in our library of sexy articles, Jack and I have gone into detail on how to target both of these spots in the best ways possible…

Guys check out this post Jack wrote on the deep spot
Also check out this one on ejaculation control
Ladies check out this one on giving yourself vaginal orgasms…

(TIP: Ladies – You might also want to share the guys’ links above with your man if you think he needs it 😉 ).

So, this was just a nice and short blog post. All I wanted to do was let you know how totally awesome vaginal orgasms are and share some cool advice to help you or your lady get there.

One final thing I want to say to the ladies…

All women can have vaginal orgasms. Please don’t fall into the trap of thinking you can’t do it. All it takes is learning some techniques and then practicing them either on your own or with a partner.

Good luck and please let me know how you get on.

Love

Unleash Her Inner Minx…

Most women, deep down inside have a raging nympho just waiting to be released. If you can tap into this inner sex fiend you can have a lot of fun…

Turn Your Woman into a Raging Nympho!

First of all I lied in the title, this isn’t about turning her into a nympho… The fact is, she is already a nympho, you just don’t know it yet. Sadly the chances are that she might not realize it either.

The first fact you need to fully realize and ACCEPT is that most women are more sexual than most men (most of the time). But this sexuality is often repressed. Many women hide their inner desires because of a very real, fear of being judged.

Think about that for a minute, how fucking unfair is it that us girls have to hide our natural biological urges because of made up bullshit created by society to control us?

In fact, this bullshit goes even further than that. Some women actually repress their sexuality from themselves! Shutting down this powerful, exciting, fun, and healthy part of their own personality just because they are scared of being judged. This is a tragedy and not just for women but for men as well!

I’m going to spell this one out for you so it is very, very clear…

Society represses women telling them their sexual desires and behaviors make them a slut.

Men in particular repress women’s sexual desires because they are scared of them, but women also fall victim to this damaging judgment as well. Either judging themselves or other women for freely enjoying their sexuality or stopping themselves from having the sex life they deserve.

So now we know what the problem is how do we resolve it?

Firstly, don’t forget all women are different, some women live totally free sex lives. They ignore the judgment of society and get on with enjoying their bodies freely in any way they chose. If your lady is like this you are a lucky man (or woman). All you need to do is learn some top class sexual skills and enjoy the ride (pun intended 😉 )

If your woman does not feel comfortable with her sexy desires (AKA inner nympho) you have some work to do. First you need to look at yourself:
– Are you scared of her sexuality?
– Do you resent the fact she finds other people attractive?
– Do you subtly try to control her so she behaves in a way which doesn’t trigger your insecurities or jealousies?

If yes is the answer to any of these don’t beat yourself up. Most of us have some fears or insecurities around sex. BUT you NEED to get this sorted. If your fears are small, work through them on your own, write them down on paper and question them, try and see how silly they are and let go of them.

If your negative feelings are deeper and more overwhelming, maybe read a few books or even get some professional help. The sooner you let go of this stuff the better. Remember this is all in your head and it comes from the bullshit told to us all by society. IT IS NOT REAL UNLESS YOU MAKE IT REAL!

Side note – Don’t forget to talk to your lady about your issues/fears/insecurities. Don’t become some weak-ass little boy trying to get his girl to sort out his mummy issues lol 😉 . But by talking and sharing, you will encourage her to do the same. Being open about your true feelings can create the intimacy and trust between you. Like I said don’t be a boy about this though, be a man and accept this is your shit and you will have to deal with it. Your lady is there to support you NOT to save you!

So, let’s assume you’ve got reasonably comfortable with the fact that deep down inside your woman is a dirty little bitch with a whole range of desires, fantasies and secrets. WELL DONE!!!!!! MOST GUYS NEVER EVEN GET CLOSE TO THIS. Remember, this may seem scary (I get that and so will your lady) but trust me, once you get this handled you will reap the rewards! 🙂

The next step is to make sure she knows that not only are you totally cool with her sharing her hidden naughtiness. Once she really trusts that you aren’t going to turn into some jealous weirdo if she mentions the wrong thing, she will open up to you more and more. She will also have her own social conditioning to deal with but as the man you can lead her through this. Encourage her to talk, share previous experiences, fantasies, desires, etc. She may open up quickly or slowly, just be cool, be confident and keep it fun. Before you know it, her inner nympho will be free, she will be insanely horny and want sex ALL OF THE TIME!

The only problem with this is that she will constantly harass you for sex, this might sound good but in reality it can be very tiring (ask Jack if you don’t believe me, he sometimes whines about this in the community and the blog!)

One final tip to help you further explode your sex life. Learn some seriously high level skills. Jack’s done two awesome posts, one on lasting longer and one on using the deep spot both are well worth checking out.

Love

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Anal Rimming

Rimming is one of those naughty topics that people are sometimes too scared to talk about. But really it’s only a bit of sexy fun and well worth giving a go (or at the very least just reading about it)…

Kissing Your Lover Where the Sun Don’t Shine…

I love anal rimming and I love being rimmed, here’s why… The butt hole has millions of nerve endings surrounding it and soft licks to it can create a sensual feeling that sends shivers up my spine.

I know how good this feels and because of that I know how much pleasure I can give my partner by returning the favor, anything I can do to turn my partner on also turns me on as well. So whether it’s giving or receiving rimming is all good with me.

Before you leave the page in disgust hear me out. I understand rimming (giving or receiving) might sound a bit extreme to a lot of people but it can be great fun and doesn’t have to be dirty or a big turn off.

It’s not dirty…unless you are.

Licking someone’s butt is no different to licking any other part of the body it is just skin.

Here are two easy steps to making sure you and your partner’s butts are ready for rimming action…

Step 1:
Only do this straight after a shower or bath. In fact why not have a bath or shower together and help each other get clean? 😉

Step 2:
Make your ass a hair free zone. Waxing, using hair removal cream or shaving makes the whole experience better for two reasons. Firstly a hair free anus is much more sensitive and secondly from the rimmer’s perspective being hair free makes it much more lick-able. It may sound a bit much having to wax your ass but think about it like this – would you want to lick the black hole of Calcutta?

Giving and receiving

Giving – There isn’t really any skill to anal rimming, it’s just a matter of gently licking the anal area and sensing what your partner likes (the moans of delight should give you a clue here). Combining this with genital stimulation provides very intense orgasms.

Receiving – Just lie back, relax and enjoy the sexy feelings that you are experiencing. Don’t try this if you are feeling uncomfortable for any specific reasons like digestion issues, a sore butt or if you need the bathroom. You will only enjoy this if you feel totally relaxed, so wait until the time is right.

Give anal rimming a go!

There are two reasons why this feels so good! First, the sensation of the tongue tickling the nerve endings of your ass is intense (until you have tried this you will never understand just how good this feels. It is on a par with licks to the pussy!). Secondly, because it feels so naughty and intimate it really adds to the excitement of your foreplay.

Try it… you never know, you might just love it!

If you are interested in sex, fantasies, erotica and more please checkout our free sexy community here… It’s free to join and full of very sexy people come on in and join the fun!

Love

PS – One of the best ways to experiment with anal play is to start with some nice toys. Click here to browse some of the best anal toys available…

Why I Love Anal…

Some girls love anal, some girls hate it. I love and in this post I’m going to share with you why I love it so much…

Lola’s Perspectives on Anal Sex

Here’s the usual story between men and women when it comes to anal sex.

He really wants to try it. It turns him on thinking about it, he tries to talk his lady into giving it a go but….

She doesn’t want to try it. She is scared of the pain, the mess and the thought of it doesn’t turn her on.

This is a real shame. Firstly the guys don’t get to enjoy one of their top fantasies and the women miss out on a whole new area of sexy fun that they could be having with their bodies!

Ladies, I’m going to make this point very clear so you understand…
If you are not having anal sex and enjoying it, you really are missing out on a lot of fun!

I understand that you might have some concerns and I will address them now but you need to accept the fact that anal sex can be mind-blowingly good if you get it right.

The usual concerns about anal sex:

The mess – Don’t worry about it! I can tell you from lots of personal experience it’s not messy! Obviously there is a time and place for anal fun, if you need a “number two” now is not the time to experiment! So pick your time, make sure you don’t need to “go” and are feeling nice and clean to help you get over this one.

The pain – It doesn’t have to be painful! Most women have had the annoying experience of some stupid guy just trying to shove a dry finger or cock up there and experienced the pain and shock that goes along with that! BUT with patience, a man with a gentle touch and a lot of lube and practice it doesn’t have to hurt much at all. I can’t say there will be no pain at first as there might be. But it will very quickly disappear as you learn to relax and then the pleasure will start to kick in.

The feeling of being degraded – OK, for some of you this extra level of taboo might be a serious turn on! But for others it will be a concern that you need to address. If you have negative thoughts about anal sex you might feel trying it is degrading, but if you think of it as something fun and exciting for you to try with your lover you won’t. Chat to some women who enjoy it. Perhaps check out our sexy community and see what the members think. Seriously I can’t say this strongly enough – anal sex is amazing once you get over your fears!

Feeling embarrassed or judged for wanting it – A lot of women would really love to try it but are worried that their man might judge them for wanting to give it a go. I understand this fear but to be honest my opinion is if any man does judge you for this you need to ask yourself is he worth having in the first place?

Look, I know I’m rare and most women aren’t (yet) into anal but there is good reason for that. It’s because I’ve tried it, got over any concerns and love it. I can have orgasms from anal sex and it adds a whole new level of naughtiness to my sex sessions, so my advice to you is to give it a go!

Feel free to add comments or questions below.

Love

PS – One of the best ways to experiment with anal play is to start with some nice toys. Click here to browse some of the best anal toys available…

How I Discovered My Deep Spot!

The deep spot is amazing. If you don’t know what, or where it is, you NEED to read this post!!!

A few years ago I discovered my deep spot.
Well to be more accurate my boyfriend at the time discovered it for me!

I had been seeing him for a while and we already had great sex together but this time was different, he started fingering me really deeply and hit on a spot I had never felt before. The sensations were really intense and it wasn’t long before I had a massive vaginal orgasm that left me in a hot sweaty mess! As I was recovering he looked up at me with a cheeky smile and said “you don’t know about that little spot did ya?”

He was right, I didn’t but I was determined to find out more. As soon as he went to work I got my toys out and started to experiment. It wasn’t easy at first (deep spot stimulation is much easier when done by someone else) but I got there and soon got much better at it. (BTW – If you don’t know what it is then you need to read this deep spot blog post!)

Now I can use my toys to give myself intense vaginal orgasms whenever I want and it is a great addition to my sexual self-loving repertoire.

Since learning how to do it for myself I have tried to show my lovers how to do it for me, but so far none have managed. The truth is it’s not that easy at first and like most things it takes a little bit of practice to get good at it. But trust me with the deep spot it is definitely worth the effort!

Months later I went back to my now ex boyfriend who first found it for me and asked him how he found out about it.
He told me he discovered it from a guy called David Shade. He has a website with a video on how to stimulate the deep spot you can check it out here…

In fact just recently I slept with a guy who hit my deep spot again and again, I asked him and he was a fan of Mr. Shade as well!

So ladies either check out this video for yourself or even better copy and paste this link and send it via email to your partner.

Men you have got to watch this video… It’s the easiest, most effective, most powerful way to make a woman cum. Once you learn it you will have the knowledge and the confidence to turn any woman into a trembling mess of sexy gratitude for the feelings you can give her!

Make sure you post below once you have found the deep spot and had some fun with it.

Love