Author: Lola Grace Falkner

Anal Rimming

Rimming is one of those naughty topics that people are sometimes too scared to talk about. But really it’s only a bit of sexy fun and well worth giving a go (or at the very least just reading about it)…

Kissing Your Lover Where the Sun Don’t Shine…

I love anal rimming and I love being rimmed, here’s why… The butt hole has millions of nerve endings surrounding it and soft licks to it can create a sensual feeling that sends shivers up my spine.

I know how good this feels and because of that I know how much pleasure I can give my partner by returning the favor, anything I can do to turn my partner on also turns me on as well. So whether it’s giving or receiving rimming is all good with me.

Before you leave the page in disgust hear me out. I understand rimming (giving or receiving) might sound a bit extreme to a lot of people but it can be great fun and doesn’t have to be dirty or a big turn off.

It’s not dirty…unless you are.

Licking someone’s butt is no different to licking any other part of the body it is just skin.

Here are two easy steps to making sure you and your partner’s butts are ready for rimming action…

Step 1:
Only do this straight after a shower or bath. In fact why not have a bath or shower together and help each other get clean? 😉

Step 2:
Make your ass a hair free zone. Waxing, using hair removal cream or shaving makes the whole experience better for two reasons. Firstly a hair free anus is much more sensitive and secondly from the rimmer’s perspective being hair free makes it much more lick-able. It may sound a bit much having to wax your ass but think about it like this – would you want to lick the black hole of Calcutta?

Giving and receiving

Giving – There isn’t really any skill to anal rimming, it’s just a matter of gently licking the anal area and sensing what your partner likes (the moans of delight should give you a clue here). Combining this with genital stimulation provides very intense orgasms.

Receiving – Just lie back, relax and enjoy the sexy feelings that you are experiencing. Don’t try this if you are feeling uncomfortable for any specific reasons like digestion issues, a sore butt or if you need the bathroom. You will only enjoy this if you feel totally relaxed, so wait until the time is right.

Give anal rimming a go!

There are two reasons why this feels so good! First, the sensation of the tongue tickling the nerve endings of your ass is intense (until you have tried this you will never understand just how good this feels. It is on a par with licks to the pussy!). Secondly, because it feels so naughty and intimate it really adds to the excitement of your foreplay.

Try it… you never know, you might just love it!

If you are interested in sex, fantasies, erotica and more please checkout our free sexy community here… It’s free to join and full of very sexy people come on in and join the fun!

Love
Lola
PS – One of the best ways to experiment with anal play is to start with some nice toys. Click here to browse some of the best anal toys available…

Why I Love Anal…

Some girls love anal, some girls hate it. I love and in this post I’m going to share with you why I love it so much…

Lola’s Perspectives on Anal Sex

Here’s the usual story between men and women when it comes to anal sex.

He really wants to try it. It turns him on thinking about it, he tries to talk his lady into giving it a go but….

She doesn’t want to try it. She is scared of the pain, the mess and the thought of it doesn’t turn her on.

This is a real shame. Firstly the guys don’t get to enjoy one of their top fantasies and the women miss out on a whole new area of sexy fun that they could be having with their bodies!

Ladies, I’m going to make this point very clear so you understand…
If you are not having anal sex and enjoying it, you really are missing out on a lot of fun!

I understand that you might have some concerns and I will address them now but you need to accept the fact that anal sex can be mind-blowingly good if you get it right.

The usual concerns about anal sex:

The mess – Don’t worry about it! I can tell you from lots of personal experience it’s not messy! Obviously there is a time and place for anal fun, if you need a “number two” now is not the time to experiment! So pick your time, make sure you don’t need to “go” and are feeling nice and clean to help you get over this one.

The pain – It doesn’t have to be painful! Most women have had the annoying experience of some stupid guy just trying to shove a dry finger or cock up there and experienced the pain and shock that goes along with that! BUT with patience, a man with a gentle touch and a lot of lube and practice it doesn’t have to hurt much at all. I can’t say there will be no pain at first as there might be. But it will very quickly disappear as you learn to relax and then the pleasure will start to kick in.

The feeling of being degraded – OK, for some of you this extra level of taboo might be a serious turn on! But for others it will be a concern that you need to address. If you have negative thoughts about anal sex you might feel trying it is degrading, but if you think of it as something fun and exciting for you to try with your lover you won’t. Chat to some women who enjoy it. Perhaps check out our sexy community and see what the members think. Seriously I can’t say this strongly enough – anal sex is amazing once you get over your fears!

Feeling embarrassed or judged for wanting it – A lot of women would really love to try it but are worried that their man might judge them for wanting to give it a go. I understand this fear but to be honest my opinion is if any man does judge you for this you need to ask yourself is he worth having in the first place?

Look, I know I’m rare and most women aren’t (yet) into anal but there is good reason for that. It’s because I’ve tried it, got over any concerns and love it. I can have orgasms from anal sex and it adds a whole new level of naughtiness to my sex sessions, so my advice to you is to give it a go!

Feel free to add comments or questions below.

Love
Lola
PS – One of the best ways to experiment with anal play is to start with some nice toys. Click here to browse some of the best anal toys available…

Woman on Top – Ride ’em Cowgirl!

I love being on top. I like being in control. I like teasing my man and I like being able to have the power of deciding when we both cum.

Why do I love being on top? It’s easy… I have control. No messing about, no missing the spot, no rhythm lost. Just bang, bang on my g-spot, Thank you very much!

All I need to do is move my hips until his cock hits the right spot and an orgasm is guaranteed. Personally, the right sort of fuck buddy for me is a man who will lie back and let me do my thing.

I also love watching my man ogle my boobs as they move with my rhythm. Getting transfixed with the way my body rocks and looking deep in to my eyes as my orgasm takes over. I know it turns them on, why wouldn’t it? Unless they have control issues and then they’re out the door anyway 😉 . Any decent man wants their lady to get pleasure out of sex and that is exactly what happens when I get on top.

When I’m on top it’s not just a vaginal orgasm or clitoral, it’s both at the same time… My favorite! I get to pull on his penis with the walls of my pussy and I get to grind my clitoris against him. I choose the strokes and I chose when I cum and being on top means I can cum again and again. I love multiple orgasms! In fact I can’t get enough of them. Call me greedy if you like but hey, it’s not my fault men have usually had enough after one orgasm!

I also get to chose when and how he gets to cum. There are multiple ways of getting him there and depending on how I feel and how quick I want us both to orgasm, I will chose what is best for the time. Usually after I have cum two or three times, I will decide its time for him to let go. Instead of grinding on his cock I will bounce up and down (so he gets more stimulation), I will tell him I want him to cum and then I will watch him go crazy with excitement.

All in all being on top is amazing fun. I get to feel in control. I get to cum lots of times and whenever I chose! He gets a great view of me and my boobs. I even get more control over when he cums and as us ladies know that can only be a good thing!

Ladies, if you don’t know how to have vaginal orgasms you can start by reading this detailed article on vaginal orgasms (my step by step guide). Also feel free to join our sexy community, so you can ask questions one on one.

Advice for you men – Practice kegel exercises. With practice you will be able to last a lot longer and can even join the world of multiple orgasms. All it takes is practice and following the rules. (Check out this link on ejaculation control here).

Please leave your comments I would love to know what you think of my blog?

Love
Lola

How I Discovered My Deep Spot!

The deep spot is amazing. If you don’t know what, or where it is, you NEED to read this post!!!

  • A few years ago I discovered my deep spot.
  • Well to be more accurate my boyfriend at the time discovered it for me! 

I had been seeing him for a while and we already had great sex together but this time was different, he started fingering me really deeply and hit on a spot I had never felt before. The sensations were really intense and it wasn’t long before I had a massive vaginal orgasm that left me in a hot sweaty mess! As I was recovering he looked up at me with a cheeky smile and said “you don’t know about that little spot did ya?”

He was right, I didn’t but I was determined to find out more. As soon as he went to work I got my toys out and started to experiment. It wasn’t easy at first (deep spot stimulation is much easier when done by someone else) but I got there and soon got much better at it. (BTW – If you don’t know what it is then you need to read this deep spot blog post!)

Now I can use my toys to give myself intense vaginal orgasms whenever I want and it is a great addition to my sexual self-loving repertoire.

Since learning how to do it for myself I have tried to show my lovers how to do it for me, but so far none have managed. The truth is it’s not that easy at first and like most things it takes a little bit of practice to get good at it. But trust me with the deep spot it is definitely worth the effort!The Deep Spot

Months later I went back to my now ex boyfriend who first found it for me and asked him how he found out about it.
He told me he discovered it from a guy called David Shade. He has a website with a video on how to stimulate the deep spot you can check it out here…

In fact just recently I slept with a guy who hit my deep spot again and again, I asked him and he was a fan of Mr. Shade as well!

So ladies either check out this video for yourself or even better copy and paste this link and send it via email to your partner.

Men you have got to watch this video… It’s the easiest, most effective, most powerful way to make a woman cum. Once you learn it you will have the knowledge and the confidence to turn any woman into a trembling mess of sexy gratitude for the feelings you can give her!

Make sure you post below once you have found the deep spot and had some fun with it.

Love
Lola

Pleasure and Pain in the Bedroom

Do you like to feel pain during foreplay and sex? Do you think you might but you aren’t sure how to give it a go, or how to bring it up with your partner…?

My Personal Take…

I’m addicted to pain in the bedroom. I can say without a doubt it increases my libido and heightens my sexual arousal A LOT. In fact I can’t get enough of it.

Here’s an interesting thing about sex and pain…I have a friend (who’s gay) that thinks it’s funny to give me agonizing “nipple cripple’s” (he twists my nipple through my clothes to make me squeal) whenever he sees me. This hurts, a lot and I don’t enjoy it! But when I am enjoying foreplay and sex then all of a sudden I’m begging my partner to do the same. In that frame of mind the exact same thing feels like a sexy tickle. Something that would normally be painful becomes arousing and pleasurable during sexual contact.

Why is this?

During sexual intercourse there are endorphins that are released in the brain. These compounds have pain killing properties which increase the threshold for pain. Consequently pain tolerance is increased during sex.

When I experience pain during sex I can’t help but think thoughts like ‘he’s hurting me but it feels so good’ or ‘I’m such a dirty bitch’. This increases my levels of arousal and gets me hornier. Don’t get me wrong, soft, sensual strokes and caresses can feel amazing but sometimes I prefer it rough and painful!

Here are some examples of play-pain that I like:

Having my hair being pulled not only increases my pleasure because of the pain but it also helps my mind fall into fantasy world that I secretly desire.

Having my nipples bitten and squeezed hard drives my libido up the wall… I can’t get enough of it.

Spanking is horny as hell. I like the pain of a good hard spanking but also love the feeling being dominated and punished for being a naughty little bitch.

Giving and receiving pain can be a great addition to any sexual relationship when done within boundaries and when both partners are aware of what is happening. Why not give it a go? Start slow and know your limits. Experiment with each other and have fun.

Click here to enter into our sexy community, so you can read some real life fantasies, meet some horny people and to share some of your experience and desires.

Love
Lola
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