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Why I Love Being Dominated

I love it when a man, totally dominates me, uses and abuses me and treats me like his own personal dirty little whore…

A Woman’s Perspective

When I’m with a man, I love to be dominated and to be dominant. I’ve written about why I love being dominant here… But in this post I want to talk about being dominated and exactly why I love it so much!

In everyday life I’m a strong character – I’m quite assertive and have some masculine qualities that come through in my day-to-day life. I’m very happy with this, I take no shit and can change a car tire quicker than most guys, (I’ve also got a mean left hook 😉 ). BUT I am still a woman and I love being able to just let go and let my man control my body and mind, because of this being submissive feels really hot!

Dominant men are very sexy – I’m sure that most women will agree that there is something deeply erotic about a man who has the skills and the confidence to dominate a woman properly. In my experience there are very few men who can really do this well, which makes them even more sexy and attractive. But this may be due to my choice of men I wonder what my female readers think?

A quick note – A man who can dominate me is sexy but a man who try’s to domineer me is a huge turn off. What’s the difference? Dominance is about leading and controlling me in the bedroom with my permission. Being domineering is trying to control my behaviors in or out of the bedroom without my permission. DON’T DO IT!… (Or you will feel the force of my left hook!)

Being dominated enters my fantasies A LOT – Both in the adult stories I read and in my mind’s eye I love to fantasize about being controlled and dominated by a very strong, masculine man.

I keep an eye out for it with guys I’m chatting to – If a guy is hitting on me and I’m thinking about whether or not I want to sleep with him, I keep an eye out for any signs of dominance. I might be a little bit cheeky and see how he reacts. I might get a bit flirty and see how he handles it. I can usually tell very easily how dominant a man will be in bed.

What is it they do to me that I like? – Obviously being spanked, pinned down or handcuffed is part of him being dominant but there is more to it than that. For me its more about him taking charge, leading what we do and the feeling that he is using my body for his own pleasure rather than trying to worship me.

So this was just another quick blog post sharing some of my thoughts of male dominance and female submission.

What do you think? Have you got any comments or questions?
(Please feel free to join in the conversation using the box below).

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Why I Love Being Dominant – A Woman’s Perspective

Sometimes there is nothing I love more than to totally dominate a man. To take control and to use him, his body and his cock for my own very naughty pleasures…

I love being dominated by a confident man (I blogged about it here…), but I also LOVE dominating a guy I’m sleeping with.

Why do I love it?
What about it do I enjoy the most?
How do the guys react?

Why do I love dominating my partner? – It is a huge turn on for me to take control of a man, I love seeing the shock on his face when he realizes I’m going to take control and get what I want! In my mind I’ve decided “I want sex now!” and it’s funny to watch him figure it out!

What do I really enjoy about dominating men? – It’s having the confidence to do what I do and that makes me feel very, very horny and powerful! The feeling of power I have over him, his mind and body is mind-blowingly sexy.

Tease, tease, tease – This is my evil side coming out. I LOVE TEASING MEN! I like getting them so fucking horny they BEG ME to let them cum. Hahahaha yes I love being in control!

How do they react? – Most of the guys I’ve done this to have loved every minute of it. I think most men do have a submissive side to their nature its just whether or not they have the courage to experience it! (Go on boys give it a go…You know you want too 😉 )

BUT – There is a minor downside to all this. I can very rarely be as dominant as I want. I would love to go much, much further than this! I would like to tie them up for hours on end, tease them for forever, spank them until the pain is too much and then fuck their brains out!

Sadly for me I’ve yet to find many sexy guys that can take this sort of punishment. When I take control I keep an eye out to see how they handle it. I know they all have their own limits and most of these limits are much less than mine…

So this was just a nice quick blog post for me to get some thoughts about being dominant down in writing.

Ladies – Do you like being in control? Have you thought about it but never tried it?

Guys – Do you like being dominated? Would you like to give it a go?

Feel free to comment below with answers to these questions or anything else you would like to add to the mix.

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Love

Women are Better at Turning On Other Women…

Do women naturally know how to turn on other women. Is it easy for them…? Or do they have to learn some skills and then practice them?

True or False?

There is a myth that women who sleep together for the first time will automatically know exactly what to do to each other. That they will automatically be able to have mind blowing howling-orgasm-type sex with no practice necessary.

Speaking from a woman’s perspective, I have to say in my experience this is mostly untrue. My first few girl-on-girl encounters weren’t mind blowing at all. In fact they were a bit awkward and clumsy. Don’t get me wrong they were still really good fun but they were a million miles away from the mythical fantasy above.
I didn’t really know what I was doing, I was really nervous and a bit freaked out by the whole thing.

Now the myth of course isn’t totally untrue either. Women do instinctively know things about other woman’s bodies that a man can never know. They are very often more sensual and gentle in their lovemaking, which is of course often appreciated by other women.

Women are also quite commonly more attuned to another woman’s emotional needs. This can help her get in a much more relaxed and free state of mind in which to enjoy herself and her partner.

The main reason I wanted to write this short blog post was for the ladies out there who might want to try sleeping with another lady. If this is you, I don’t want you to put pressure on yourself thinking you have to live up to the myth and have mind-blowing sex the first time you get naked with another woman.

Don’t let this pressure put you off trying it, or stop you from enjoying whatever happens. My advice is very simple. Firstly pick your girl carefully. Second take your time, don’t rush straight into the wet sticky bits. Finally remember to enjoy whatever happens and let go of any unrealistic expectations or fantasies that you may have.

Guys – If you are lucky enough to be having a threesome with two ladies you need to take the lead. Look after them, show them the way and they will feel much better for having your help.

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Love

The Secret Spots Inside a Woman

Learn exactly how to give a woman a vaginal orgasm with no clitoral stimulation. Learn these skills and she will love you forever..!

Giving Her a Vaginal Orgasm

Some interesting facts about men, women and vaginal orgasm:

Most people have heard about the G-spot. Some know where to find it. Some even know how to use it to give a woman an orgasm.
Very few people have heard of The Deep Spot. Even fewer know where it is. Even fewer know how to use it to make a woman cum.
Very few women know how to give themselves a vaginal orgasm.
Very few men know how to make women cum vaginally.

Why is this even important?

Clitoral orgasms are GREAT but for most women vaginal orgasms are MUCH, MUCH BETTER! They are more intense, more powerful and more satisfying (for most women, most of the time).

So, for men if you want to give your women deeply powerful, and satisfying sex you NEED to learn how to give her vaginal orgasms.

Ladies, trust me on this one, if you’re not cumming from vaginal stimulation you need to! It feels fucking amazing, I much, much prefer it to just cumming from my clit and when I combine the two together my pleasure goes off the scale!

The G-spot

About two inches inside the front wall of the vagina. This special little love button likes firm pressure from a cock, a toy or fingers.

The Deep Spot

About as deep inside the front of a lady’s pussy as fingers can reach. It can be stimulated with a cock, toys or a partner’s fingers, but it’s not easy to hit it DIY (without a toy).

Anal Orgasms

The right sort of anal stimulation can hit the Deep Spot from the back and give powerful anal orgasms.

Combination Orgasms

All of these spots can be used in combination with each or the clitoris to give even more powerful and satisfying orgasmic experiences.

Some useful links:

Both in this blog and in our library of sexy articles, Jack and I have gone into detail on how to target both of these spots in the best ways possible…

Guys check out this post Jack wrote on the deep spot
Also check out this one on ejaculation control
Ladies check out this one on giving yourself vaginal orgasms…

(TIP: Ladies – You might also want to share the guys’ links above with your man if you think he needs it 😉 ).

So, this was just a nice and short blog post. All I wanted to do was let you know how totally awesome vaginal orgasms are and share some cool advice to help you or your lady get there.

One final thing I want to say to the ladies…

All women can have vaginal orgasms. Please don’t fall into the trap of thinking you can’t do it. All it takes is learning some techniques and then practicing them either on your own or with a partner.

Good luck and please let me know how you get on.

Love

Unleash Her Inner Minx…

Most women, deep down inside have a raging nympho just waiting to be released. If you can tap into this inner sex fiend you can have a lot of fun…

Turn Your Woman into a Raging Nympho!

First of all I lied in the title, this isn’t about turning her into a nympho… The fact is, she is already a nympho, you just don’t know it yet. Sadly the chances are that she might not realize it either.

The first fact you need to fully realize and ACCEPT is that most women are more sexual than most men (most of the time). But this sexuality is often repressed. Many women hide their inner desires because of a very real, fear of being judged.

Think about that for a minute, how fucking unfair is it that us girls have to hide our natural biological urges because of made up bullshit created by society to control us?

In fact, this bullshit goes even further than that. Some women actually repress their sexuality from themselves! Shutting down this powerful, exciting, fun, and healthy part of their own personality just because they are scared of being judged. This is a tragedy and not just for women but for men as well!

I’m going to spell this one out for you so it is very, very clear…

Society represses women telling them their sexual desires and behaviors make them a slut.

Men in particular repress women’s sexual desires because they are scared of them, but women also fall victim to this damaging judgment as well. Either judging themselves or other women for freely enjoying their sexuality or stopping themselves from having the sex life they deserve.

So now we know what the problem is how do we resolve it?

Firstly, don’t forget all women are different, some women live totally free sex lives. They ignore the judgment of society and get on with enjoying their bodies freely in any way they chose. If your lady is like this you are a lucky man (or woman). All you need to do is learn some top class sexual skills and enjoy the ride (pun intended 😉 )

If your woman does not feel comfortable with her sexy desires (AKA inner nympho) you have some work to do. First you need to look at yourself:
– Are you scared of her sexuality?
– Do you resent the fact she finds other people attractive?
– Do you subtly try to control her so she behaves in a way which doesn’t trigger your insecurities or jealousies?

If yes is the answer to any of these don’t beat yourself up. Most of us have some fears or insecurities around sex. BUT you NEED to get this sorted. If your fears are small, work through them on your own, write them down on paper and question them, try and see how silly they are and let go of them.

If your negative feelings are deeper and more overwhelming, maybe read a few books or even get some professional help. The sooner you let go of this stuff the better. Remember this is all in your head and it comes from the bullshit told to us all by society. IT IS NOT REAL UNLESS YOU MAKE IT REAL!

Side note – Don’t forget to talk to your lady about your issues/fears/insecurities. Don’t become some weak-ass little boy trying to get his girl to sort out his mummy issues lol 😉 . But by talking and sharing, you will encourage her to do the same. Being open about your true feelings can create the intimacy and trust between you. Like I said don’t be a boy about this though, be a man and accept this is your shit and you will have to deal with it. Your lady is there to support you NOT to save you!

So, let’s assume you’ve got reasonably comfortable with the fact that deep down inside your woman is a dirty little bitch with a whole range of desires, fantasies and secrets. WELL DONE!!!!!! MOST GUYS NEVER EVEN GET CLOSE TO THIS. Remember, this may seem scary (I get that and so will your lady) but trust me, once you get this handled you will reap the rewards! 🙂

The next step is to make sure she knows that not only are you totally cool with her sharing her hidden naughtiness. Once she really trusts that you aren’t going to turn into some jealous weirdo if she mentions the wrong thing, she will open up to you more and more. She will also have her own social conditioning to deal with but as the man you can lead her through this. Encourage her to talk, share previous experiences, fantasies, desires, etc. She may open up quickly or slowly, just be cool, be confident and keep it fun. Before you know it, her inner nympho will be free, she will be insanely horny and want sex ALL OF THE TIME!

The only problem with this is that she will constantly harass you for sex, this might sound good but in reality it can be very tiring (ask Jack if you don’t believe me, he sometimes whines about this in the community and the blog!)

One final tip to help you further explode your sex life. Learn some seriously high level skills. Jack’s done two awesome posts, one on lasting longer and one on using the deep spot both are well worth checking out.

Love

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