Category: For The Ladies

Some people are of the opinion that men and women can’t really be friends without attraction getting in the way of that friendship and causing issues either between the two friends or between the friends and their partners.

What’s my opinion of this? I completely disagree!

I have tons of female friends, some of whom I think are attractive and some I don’t, this doesn’t affect the friendship in any way shape or form. I also know at various times some of my female friends have been attracted to me (hard to believe, I know lol 😉 ).

First of all I think it’s very easy for men and women to be friends with no physical attraction between them. Not everybody fancies everybody else!

Secondly, I think it is possible for one friend to find another attractive without it getting in the way of the friendship. I have some very hot female friends and if I let my attraction towards them get in the way I would lose some amazing friends. We are all human we find people attractive all day, every single day, it’s what we do. It’s no biggie.

Thirdly, I think two friends can have mutual attraction act on it by getting it on OR not act on it and just accept the fact that they find each other hot and still be good friends. I have female friends who I’ve slept with and then gone back to being good friends with. Again no biggie!

To be honest I think this whole myth stems from insecurity. I think people who are insecure and scared of being not good enough or worry about being cheated on (or dumped) do a few things.

They assume that their partners will always be looking for a chance to cheat and see any close friendship as a perfect opportunity for this to happen.

Also, they assume because they are worrying about sex and cheating all the time that everyone else is thinking about it and that everyone is having sex behind their back.

Finally, they see genuine attraction and assume the absolute worse. Instead of realizing their partners will always find other people attractive, they worry about it and try and control their partners desires.

Ok I’m almost done with this rant. I’m sure as our readers are so awesome they won’t buy into this belief. If you do lets debate it using the comments below 🙂 .

If you do suffer from jealousy or insecurity, I feel for you. I’ve been there and it’s not nice! I suggest you do your best to get it handled. Read some books, take up meditation or get some therapy, you deserve better and so do your partners.

My final point is this, I think we all need to accept the fact that we all find people attractive all the time. Like I said it’s what we do. I get that it can be a little scary but the sooner we all get over our fears and accept that our lovers fancy lots of people the better. Who knows we might even think about sharing them and getting some more action ourselves and then the fun can really start…! 😉

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A Woman’s Perspective

When I’m with a man, I love to be dominated and to be dominant. I’ve written about why I love being dominant here… But in this post I want to talk about being dominated and exactly why I love it so much!

In everyday life I’m a strong character – I’m quite assertive and have some masculine qualities that come through in my day-to-day life. I’m very happy with this, I take no shit and can change a car tire quicker than most guys, (I’ve also got a mean left hook 😉 ). BUT I am still a woman and I love being able to just let go and let my man control my body and mind, because of this being submissive feels really hot!

Dominant men are very sexy – I’m sure that most women will agree that there is something deeply erotic about a man who has the skills and the confidence to dominate a woman properly. In my experience there are very few men who can really do this well, which makes them even more sexy and attractive. But this may be due to my choice of men I wonder what my female readers think?

A quick note – A man who can dominate me is sexy but a man who try’s to domineer me is a huge turn off. What’s the difference? Dominance is about leading and controlling me in the bedroom with my permission. Being domineering is trying to control my behaviors in or out of the bedroom without my permission. DON’T DO IT!… (Or you will feel the force of my left hook!)

Being dominated enters my fantasies A LOT – Both in the adult stories I read and in my mind’s eye I love to fantasize about being controlled and dominated by a very strong, masculine man.

I keep an eye out for it with guys I’m chatting to – If a guy is hitting on me and I’m thinking about whether or not I want to sleep with him, I keep an eye out for any signs of dominance. I might be a little bit cheeky and see how he reacts. I might get a bit flirty and see how he handles it. I can usually tell very easily how dominant a man will be in bed.

What is it they do to me that I like? – Obviously being spanked, pinned down or handcuffed is part of him being dominant but there is more to it than that. For me its more about him taking charge, leading what we do and the feeling that he is using my body for his own pleasure rather than trying to worship me.

So this was just another quick blog post sharing some of my thoughts of male dominance and female submission.

What do you think? Have you got any comments or questions?
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