Do women like anal sex?

Most guys really want to try anal sex with the female partners. But not all women seem that keen. Why is this and what can the guys do about it?

Have you ever wondered… Do women enjoy anal sex?

In my experience the answer to this question is complicated so lets break it down a bit.

My opinion is that:

  • Some women LOVE it.
  • Some women like it but prefer other types of
    sexy fun.
  • Some women would like it if they tried it but for some reason don’t want too (more on this later).
  • Some women will never try it, so they will never know if they enjoy it or not!

If you want to try anal fun with your female partner there are a few things you can do. First of all and this is stupidly obvious but I’ll say it anyway, if she already knows she likes it then you can just go for it and enjoy it! Don’t worry about it being dirty (its not if you do it right), just GO FOR IT!

If she likes it but just not as much as other types of sex you can use toys and skills to make anal sex much more pleasurable for her. (Again more on this later).

How to get a woman to try it.

If your lady isn’t sure about giving it a go there are a few things you can try to encourage her.

  1. Use anal sex in fantasies. Send her naughty text and emails and slowly introduce more and more anal play into the stories. As she gets turned on by this she will be much more likely to want to give it a go.
  2. Start off very slowly. When you are going down on her start by tickling her butt. Tease it a lot, especially when she is cumming. Once she gets used to that, try slipping a very well lubed finger inside her. Slide it in and out (at the same speed you lick her pussy) and she will love it.
  3. Just keep going with these simple techniques and be patient. Don’t expect her to beg you to fuck her in the ass after one finger session! As she starts to both fantasize about, and experience pleasure with anal play, she will become more and more interested in trying anal sex for real.
  4. Let her do it to you. Let her put a finger or two inside you. This will show her that it is not dirty, that it’s fun and that you are open minded enough to not judge her for giving it a go.

How to help a woman enjoy it

Once she is keen to give it a go, use the tips and techniques to make it go well for you both.

  1. Encourage her to go to the bathroom first. That way she wont worry too much about it being dirty.
  2. Reassure her. Most women worry. They worry about being dirty. They worry about not being sexy or attractive enough and they worry about being too slutty. Reassure her that what you are doing is just a really fun sexy experiment and that it turns you on A LOT.
  3. Make sure she knows what’s coming… Don’t just ram it up her back-end without any warning! You don’t have to give her a full run down of what you are going to do, just make sure it’s not a surprise.
  4. Whenever you are doing anything anal you need to use lots of lube. The anus doesn’t create its own natural lubrication like the pussy does so get the lube out and slap it all over the place. (The more the better here…Trust me on this one, she will thank you for it).
  5. Open her up with some butt plugs or small vibes. This helps her relax and enjoy the pleasurable sensations rather than just feeling pain and no pleasure. The idea is you start off with a finger or two, then you use a butt plug then finally your cock.
  6. Go slowly at first. Do not think you can fuck her in the ass like some hardcore porn star. Ease your cock in very, very slowly and make sure she is ok before you start to go harder and faster.
  7. Encourage her to use a vibe on her clit to give her even more pleasure.


Make sure you have your check list of essential tools and equipment

There you go! Remember most women do like anal fun, it just takes a skillful lover to help them enjoy it (and take them to a whole new level of kinky pleasure).

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What turns me on about the opposite sex – A woman’s perspective

I love men. Not just the rugged handsome ones but all types of men. Their personalities can be sexy, the jobs they do can be sexy and even the type of musical instrument they play can all get me hot and bothered…

When it comes to my attraction levels with men I find things change the older I get.

While looks still do matter to me, they are much less important than they used to be. I don’t know if this is because I’m less shallow or just because my tastes have changed but it’s the way it is and I’m very happy with it!

Here is a list of some of the random things I find attractive in the men I meet, date or just perv at from afar! 😉

  1. Personality can be so much more attractive than looks. I know some guys find this hard to believe but for me it is 100% true. A confident man or even better a man who is confident and funny is a huge turn on, no matter what he looks like.
  2. Hairy chests! I love them, As soon as I see one I find myself imagining what it Hairy Chestwould be like to nuzzle up against it after hot steamy sex.
  3. Masculinity. Before I decide to sleep with a man I will picture myself in their arms. If the image makes me feel feminine and safe this is very sexy. He doesn’t have to have huge muscly arms but I do prefer them to be masculine in some way.
  4. Men’s chests in general…I love them!
  5. Bald heads…Phwoar!
  6. Big strong chunky legs. I live in the UK and over here we have some very sexy rugby players with nice big muscly thighs…Yum yum!
  7. More on personality. I pay attention to the way he talks to me, if he wont let me finish or talks over me it’s a no-no.
    If a guy listens to me and I feel I can talk to him honestly and feel a connection it is very attractive.
  8. Subtle dominance. I love it if he puts me in my place. I might be cheeky on purpose or I might say something without realizing it. If he calls me out on it, then it’s instantly a strong turn on. (Note I do not like domineering men but I do like men who don’t stand for any BS).
  9.  Nice teeth and lips are very hot and make me think about kissing and thinking about kissing makes me think about fucking and so it goes on…!
  10. If they are good kissers this makes me find their mouths even more attractive.
  11. Having a clean body, clean cock, tidied up and smelling nice
  12. Knowing what he wants. A man who knows what he wants and gets it is a major point of attraction.
  13. That super cool vibe. If he is comfortable in his own skin, I find it magnetic and want to spend more and more time with him
  14. The fact that they have a dick. I love dicks and just thinking about a man’s dick gets me thinking about what it would be like to feel it inside me.

Well I was going to stop but I got carried away!

So what do you think of my list? Do you have anything to add?

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Can men and women be friends? A woman’s perspective

A woman’s perspective on the age old question of can men and women be friends without sexual attraction or even love getting in the way of the friendship…

There is a widely held belief that with both men and women that members of the opposite sex cannot be just friends. That platonic relationships between a man and a woman are impossible.

In my opinion this is a great shame as it dramatically reduces the amount of friends someone can have. Also there can be something very special in friendship between a woman and a man and to totally rule that out seems crazy to me!

So clearly I don’t buy into this belief but I can understand where it comes from.

For years I thought it was possible to have purely platonic friendships with myself and my guy friends, but a close male friend convinced me that this wasn’t accurate.

What he explained to me and what I’ve since experienced is that there will always be an element of attraction or sexual curiosity from one, the other or both people involved. (Maybe at the same or different times in the relationship).

Where I differ from the people that think men and women should not be friends is that I think it is perfectly fine for friends to experience some sort of attraction at some time during their friendships. I think this is normal, natural and nothing to stress about.

Well I would qualify that slightly. Its nothing to worry about in a healthy respectful friendship where neither side has ulterior motives, like wrecking a relationship for example.

I think what is more important than the existence of attraction is the way the friends behave with each other.

If both men and women in this type of friendship are very clear about the signals they send out, this is a great start. Especially if one person is aware that the other has feelings for them.

For example if I have a male friend who I know finds me attractive I would be careful how I behave with him. I wouldn’t sit on his lap at a party or do a sexy dance in front of him when I hit the dance floor.

(I found learning how to do this a bit tricky. Sometimes I would be doing things that I thought were platonic but were misread by others. So now I tread carefully but try not to stress too much about it).

That way as long as I send out only very clear platonic signals I have done nothing to encourage the attraction he feels for me. Anything else is his responsibility and beyond my control.

Of course it is really important not to let these situations get out of hand. If the attraction gets too much a good friendship can be lost and that is always a sad thing when it occurs.

It is also important if there is a partner involved in one or both sides of the friendship. Partners not involved in the friendship need to feel loved and respected as well. This can be hard if they know their partner’s friend is in love with them!

So to sum this up….

What I am saying is that I think men and women can and should be friends.

What I am also saying is that this can be complicated and as such needs some thought and discussion.

As always there is always room for learning, growth and good communication nearly always makes things better.

What do you think about this? Do you have anything to add?

PS – Jack blogged about this from a man’s perspective, check it out here…

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If you would like to find an online or a real world playmate – You need to do a little bit of everything listed above. Definitely make sure your avatar and your profile is as sexy/funny/interesting as possible. Definitely join some groups and start having fun with other members. Also you really should think about writing a story and adding it to the library. Using a horny fantasy to interest your playmates is a sure fire way to meet some cool people to play with!

Can you think of anymore? If so add your suggestions to the comments section below and I will update this list.

I hope this helps.

Have a good one!

The Deep Spot: The Easiest Way to Give Any Woman a Vaginal Orgasm

Do you know what the deep spot is? Do you know how to find it and how to stimulate it to give women insanely powerful vaginal orgasms? Read this post and discover everything you need to know…

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Note – This blog post is mainly written for people who want make women cum (guys and gals) but if you are a woman and have never experienced a deep spot orgasm please read on. Once you know what it is you can teach your lover a new exciting way to make you cum. (Maybe even send your lover a link to this blog post).

Before I go any further I need to give credit to a man called David Shade, it was from him that I learned about the deep spot (and a lot of other amazing techniques that I will save for another blog post)! David is a remarkable man, he rose from the ashes from a painful divorce to become one of the most skilled sex experts there is. The methods he teaches REALLY WORK and he has a free download that’s well worth checking out on this link…

Some questions:

  • What is it?
  • How do you stimulate it?
  • What is so special about it?

What exactly is this secret spot?

It is a smooth frisbee shaped area, deep inside the woman’s vagina close to her cervix. It is sensitive enough to give powerful orgasms but not overly sensitive (like a clit just after orgasm). This means with firm regular stokes the deep spot can be used to give a woman powerful orgasms with NO CLITORAL STIMULATION again and again.

How do you stimulate it?

This technique is very simple but it does take a little bit of practice. Get your lady to lie on her back with her legs wide open and her knees bent. Insert your middle finger as deep as possible inside her and make a “come hither motion” almost as if you are trying to tickle the back of her belly button from the inside out. Try a few different areas until she starts to respond with pleasure and then just repeat until she cums.

The technique really is that simple but the reality is that you might find it a bit tiring at first. Your arm and finger night get a little achy! Don’t worry just keep practicing until you build up the stamina.

Also you will find she gets so horny she wriggles about a lot with pleasure making it hard to keep your finger on the magic spot. There is a simple solution to both these problems – Put your spare hand on her belly and push down towards your finger. This helps you keep your fingertip in the right place, it helps you when your fingers get tired and it also increases her pleasure (by allowing you to push harder).

Learn how to stimulate the deep spot
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What is so special about the deep spot?

First of all it is the easiest and most effective way of giving a woman a vaginal orgasm. Most women think that they need clitoral stimulation to cum and by giving her a vaginal orgasm (with no clit stimulation) you will blow her mind.

Secondly, very few people know about this. So if you use this on a woman it will very likely be the first time she has experienced it.

Finally as the deep spot is not as sensitive as her clit, she can take repeated stimulation even while cumming. This means you can use it to give her very long, intense orgasms like she has never had before.

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It is real easy once you know how and you will soon have the power to make any woman cum harder than she ever has in her life! Also don’t forget that women talk to each other, especially about great sex. if you get this skill mastered and do a good job on one lady, she will tell her friends and then guess what might happen..? 😉

Have a good one!
PS – Don’t forget to leave any comments or questions you have in the box below, I am here to help.

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