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10 Things Guys Do During Sex That I Love

Some guys just get it. They seem to be able to read my mind and give me everything I need. Check out this list of the fave things that men do in during sex…

This article is going to celebrate some of the awesome things men do that I love. Guys if you don’t do these then you should think about starting. Girls if your man doesn’t do any of these and you want him too then send him a link to this post or chop him up into small pieces and feed him to stray dogs. 😉

Once I started this blog, I couldn’t stop. It was supposed to be only ten points long but I couldn’t decide which ones to drop, so I listed all thirteen:

1 – Play/stroke other parts of my body. I am a very sensual woman. It makes my day when men massage my feet or even stroke my arms. It really gets me turned on and ready to go.

2 – Baths and showers. Washing each other and spending time looking and admiring each others bodies is a real turn on for me.

3 –A man who has done his research. When a man has done his research and knows all the secrets spots on my body and is eager to find them! I love this, it really turns me on and it means I am already half way there to orgasmic bliss.

4 – Takes care of contraception. I know this may sound ridiculous to some but knowing that he is thinking about his future and will only play safe shows me he is grown up. This makes him extremely desirable to me. I like men not boys!

5 –Different positions. I love all sexual positions and love to have at least three or four of them in a session.

6 – Spontaneity. Of any sort, from being taken behind while I wash the pots, to being rudely awakened in the middle of the night. This makes me feel irresistible.

7 –Using toys, props and food. It spices things up and helps make sex last longer.

8 – Biting, hair pulling and spanking. These are my some of the absolute favorite things men do to me. A little pain when I am turned on makes my orgasms so much more intense.

9 – Role-play. You cannot beat it! When my man walks home from work and tells me I have been a naughty girl for not “cleaning the house properly” or he tells me I am going to be his dirty little sex slave I am instantly horny!

10 – Dirty talk. Telling me how good I ride his cock or how tight my pussy is drives me wild. Men will reap the benefits from getting very good at this this one.

11 – Rimming. Trust me this feels fucking amazing.

12 – Not being afraid of the taste of his own cum. When I have given a man a mind blowing orgasm and I have swallowed his semen. Then I come back up to relax in his arms and I give him a kiss and instead of shying away he kisses me passionately. Fuck… I can fall instantly in love from this one.

13 – Not falling straight too sleep. I can’t switch off the same as men. I am usually so wired after sex that I need a good ten minutes to come back down to earth and hearing men snore while I do this hurts. Lovers that cradle me in their arms and talk sweet nothings to me are the keepers.

Come on ladies join in and tell the men just what gets us going. Men what do you think of my list? If you haven’t read it already check out my previous blog post on ten things I hate about men during sex. It’s me having a rant on terrible things men do that turn me off during sex (but don’t worry I offer solutions so it’s not all negative).

Love

PS – Jack has written two great blog posts sharing great tips on how to last longer and how to make a woman cum using the deep spot.

20 Things Women Do in Bed

Rant, rant, rant!!!! I am sick of women complaining that men are bad in the sack when there are so many things the ladies could do so much better…!

Which Make Me Mad..!

Ok, before I start this post let me make something clear. I love women. I am not a woman hater and I’m not about to give you a long rant about how women are all terrible in bed! But I am going to rant about some of the annoying things women do in bed. I’m doing this so I can let off some steam, so other men can agree and so women can learn. Two points to consider first of all:

1. A lot of women (and media targeted at women) are constantly bitching about how men are crap in bed.
2. In my experience very few women are great in bed. (Don’t worry ladies after I’ve had my rant I will offer some solutions.)

I find this combination a bit hypocritical and irritating and once I’ve let off some steam I’m going to propose some solutions. (Stick with me here ladies, I promise this is going to get a lot more helpful!) So here are the ten things women do in the bedroom that piss me off:

Treating my dick like it’s a piece of gym equipment! – Be gentle ladies. My cock might not be as sensitive as your clit but it still needs a gentle touch. Don’t grip it like a dumbbell and whatever you do don’t pull my foreskin back too far THIS REALLY HURTS.

Biting my dick! – I know this isn’t the same for all guys but for me personally when I’m getting a blow job I don’t want you to bite the end of my dick! Use your tongue and your lips to blow my mind, but keep your teeth well away from the tip of my cock.

Expecting me to do all the work! – Don’t lie back and expect me to do all the work, it’s lazy and selfish. Sex is best when both partners want to give the other pleasure, when both partners want to give more than they receive. This is a very simple way to make sex better.

Bending my dick into uncomfortable positions. – Often reverse cow-girl but in some other positions as well. If you need to hit a certain spot I get it, but my dick can snap under pressure. If it does, blood will pour out of the end of it and it wont work for months! Be careful with your lover’s prick or you may just lose your favorite toy.

Faking orgasms – Don’t do it. If your man is terrible in bed it kids him into thinking he is doing a good job and for those of us that can tell the difference it is a major turn off.

Not helping me out/Expecting me to know everything – I am not a mind reader! Women are complicated creatures. They all have different sexual needs and those needs differ from day to day. If you don’t give me some clues as to what you want it is very hard for me to guess.

Ass attack – I’m all up for a bit of bum fun BUT I have no desire for anyone to ram a badly aimed and sharpened nail up my butt with no warning or lube. There is a time and place for this sort of fun and it usually involves at least some sort of planning and preparation.

Nipple fiddling – I HATE this one. During foreplay I like having my nipples squeezed and nibbled. But often after sex a woman will start to fiddle with my nipples as if to give her fingers something to do. This really pisses me off so don’t do it!

Telling me they are going to cum (too early) – Two of my best friends have an issue with this as well. For guys, when a woman says “I’m going to cum” it can very often push us over the edge to cumming very, very quickly. Sometimes a woman will say it far too early and then we end up cumming before she gets a chance to! Clearly not good for anyone involved.

Keeping too many secrets – So many times when I ask a woman “what do you fantasize about” or “what would you like to try in bed” they reply “nothing”. Yeah right lol! You never fantasize and you don’t have any sexual desires, are you a fucking robot!?!

So, as promised, for any of you ladies reading this, here are my solutions:

Treating my dick like it’s a piece of gym equipment! – Each cock has its own preferences but the skill here is to start off gently until you know what your lover prefers.

Biting my dick! – Don’t do it unless it is requested. Keep your teeth away from any dick you suck!

Expecting me to do all the work! – Just get off your lazy ass and do something. If you feel unsure or nervous about taking action, have a chat with Lola in our community and get some sexy skills to use on your man.

Bending my dick into uncomfortable positions – If you are trying out some crazy new position double check that your lover is cool with it and then start off slowly until you know his dick is safe.

Faking orgasms – Don’t do it. If your lover is so bad that you feel you have too, you might want to think about getting a new one!

Expecting me to know everything – I know in your ideal fantasy world you wouldn’t ever have to tell a man anything and he would still know every tiny detail of how to give you the best fucking of your life. BUT this isn’t an ideal world so help your man out and you will reap the rewards!

Ass attack – Just be careful around that sensitive area and always use plenty of lube!

Nipple fiddling – Maybe this one is just me, ask your man and see if he feels the same?

Telling me they are going to cum too early – Don’t say you are going to cum until you are very, very close. Then say it; please do, as it is very sexy!

Keeping too many secrets – Do your best to share your desires and fantasies. It will improve your sex life.

In my next blog post I’ve listed the ten things women do in bed that I love. I don’t want to spend any more time on the negative side of sex, so I’m going to celebrate the amazing things women do in bed, check it out here…

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Have a good one!

10 Things Guys Do During Sex That I Hate!

Ok, I admit this is me having a huge rant about the annoying things men do in bed..! Ladies check it out and join in the rant. Guys its time to learn what NOT to do…

Let’s get this straight I am not a man hater! I love men BUT sometimes they do things that drive me insane. There are lots of good things that guys do to me in bed, in fact there are a lot before they get me into bed (giggle 😉 ) but that’s another blog post. This blog post is just me letting off some steam. I am having a rant for myself and all the women out there because I’m so tired of men that are terrible in bed.

Just so you guys don’t think I am a complete bitch I am going to give you some advice so if you want to change any of these problems you can do (you will be a better sex partner for doing so). Also my partner in crime Jack is going to write a similar blog post aimed at women and what turns him off (equal rights lol 😉 ) Ok here goes…

1 – Cleanliness. You expect us to be clean, hairless and manicured yet can’t even be bothered to wash your own armpits properly! Sort it out…Be clean, smell nice and tidy up your pubes. It’s only fair!

2 – Not enough foreplay. You get turned on like a light switch (in a split second). We on the other hand are more like a dimmer switch…We like to be turned on slowly and gradually. Take your time guys. Unless we are gagging for some rough action take it slow. Build us up. Tantalize us for a while… Go on I dare you.

3 – Not keeping rhythm. This one is fairly simple to explain again but takes practice in the real world. Women like in both foreplay and sex in a steady rhythm. We do not like sporadic jerky actions. We do like the rhythm and tempo to increase as long as the rhythm stays steady. You will be able to tell this from our body language and the noises that we make.

4 – No confidence. Sleeping with a strong confident man allows me to be at my sexiest. Even if you don’t feel confident, just pretend and it will come with experience (AKA fake it til you make it). I understand that some of you guys might not feel very confident and might not have all the skills you need to start taking control in the bedroom. But you have to start somewhere and the longer you let it carry on like this then the harder it becomes. Take a big breath, relax and take control of the situation, it will be fine.

5 – Be more vocal. I want a man that knows how to enjoy himself. If a man does not talk or make any noise during sex I worry he is not enjoying himself. If he shows me how much fun he is having I stop worrying and start having even more fun.Talking naughty is music to my ears. Making some noise and expressing how much pleasure you are having when you cum blows my mind. Try it.

6 – Not listening. THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST ANNOYING OF ALL!!! If I tell you to spank my bottom then spank it and take that bit of information and store it so I do not have to repeat myself. I do not want to be telling you every time I want my hair pulled as frankly it turn’s me off. The only thing I can do here is tell you. If you don’t listen to your girl and you keep making the same dumb mistakes that turn her off the chances are she will cheat on you, dump you, or both. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!!

7 – Fucking me like you are trying to drill a hole in a reinforced concrete wall. THIS IS NOT SEXY. Quite a lot of the time I like to be fucked hard but what I do not like is passionless, repetitive, high speed thrusting. Learn about when the time is right. Here is a tip… it rarely is!

8 –Ramming fingers up my butt without warning. I want to make it clear that I love bum sex BUT it has to be right. Put it like this how would you like it if during sex or foreplay a girl shoved there finger or a dildo up your arse with no warning. Some ladies might enjoy this but I don’t, there is a time and place for shoving things up my bottom. I don’t like surprises and I need lots of lube.

9 – Premature ejaculation. It is not nice guys, we want to cum too. For a short fix I suggest condoms with a climax control lubricant in and for the long run do lots of kegel exercises. Also make sure your licking and fingering skills are up to scratch until you get this handled. (Check out this awesome blog post by Jack for some great advice on delaying ejaculation)

10 – (Last but certainly not least) Putting me on a pedestal and treating me like a princess. Of course I want you to find me attractive and yeah I like it when you make me feel sexy but please do not devalue yourself in the process. Don’t be over the top with compliments. Don’t treat me like a princess who has never seen cock before. Do treat me like your special horny bitch. I am not your mother or your sister and I am certainly not a nun.

Rant over! My next blog will be ten things I love about men during sex.

Guys I hope you will take heed. I am sure some of you will want to leave me a comment and you are more than welcome too. If you want to learn an easy, fast, effective way to take any woman to sexual ecstasy read this blog post.

Ladies if you want to add your comments then please go ahead, the more tips we give these men the better it is for us.

Love

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PPS – As promised here is Jack’s post where he has a rant about all the annoying things women do in bed…

Does Size Matter? – The Million Dollar Question!

Do you worry about the size of your cock? Do you think it is too small to satisfy a woman? Don’t panic check, just out this post for a very honest female perspective…

Personally I don’t care what size a man’s penis is. It could be the size of a button mushroom for all I care. If he knows how to use it and is confident in the bedroom then a small sized penis is not a big concern.

What is a major factor is having a small penis and not knowing how to use it. If he has the skills and the endurance I need to reach orgasm then that is good enough for me. Any man can achieve this with the right knowledge and practice.

So while I understand from a man’s perspective having a small cock might be hard, from my perspective they have nothing to worry about. Unless of course they are too lazy to learn some sexual skills…Now that is ANNOYING!

As we know the g-spot is just past the opening into a ladies vagina and so it does not need a big cock to hit it, a button mushroom will do just fine (in fact this shape can be ideal). Yes a small penis is not going to find our deep spot but a man can reach this with his hands (BTW if you don’t know where to find it then check out this blog post Jack has written on the deep spot). On a similar point a large cock cannot easily hit our g-spot but is more likely to hit our deep spot. Either way vaginal orgasm can be achieved so it’s just a matter of getting the best out of the cock being used :-).

It is worth bearing in mind that not every woman is like me. I do have a friend who before she gets a man into bed she will check his groin first to make sure his cock is big enough (she refuses to sleep with guys with small cocks). So men with small cocks have no chance with her but hey that is one woman I know out of hundreds.

Most of my female friends don’t care too much about the size of a man’s cock, what they do care about is if he can make her cum both clitorally and vaginally. He can do that with his hands, and his tongue, AS LONG AS THEY CUM THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT THE SIZE OF HIS COCK! It’s true that women sometimes love the feeling of having their pussies stretched wide open, but very few cocks are big enough to do this fully. Large sex toys or a pussy full of fingers is the way forward here!

My advice for men with a small penis is to make sure your woman finds it easy to have vaginal orgasms. Start with your fingers, find her g-spot and practice making her cum this way. (Use the cum hither motion and her bodies signals to help you find that sweet spot. Once you find it easy to make her cum vaginally from your fingers you will find it easy to do the same with your cock. Just practice your kegel exercises so that you can last long enough for her to relax and you will be giving her full blown vaginal orgasms (from fucking her) in no time.

The important thing to remember is that you need to get this handled.

THERE IS VERY LITTLE YOU CAN DO ABOUT THE SIZE OF YOUR COCK BUT THERE IS A LOT YOU CAN DO TO LEARN ABOUT SATISFYING YOUR WOMAN.

Like I said for nearly all women the size doesn’t matter what matters is that you have the skills needed to make them cum. If a woman is not sexually satisfied the chances are she will either leave, cheat or both.

Women please comment, add your questions, your advice and tell me what I have missed. Men please comment with any questions you have and remember to focus on improving your sexual skills and creating a fun sexy vibe with your lover. Comments have to be checked and verified before they appear to avoid spam from clogging up our blog.

Love

PS – Don’t forget to have a look at Jack’s blog post about the deep spot, very few guys know about this secret little love button, it’s very powerful and easy to find. It will blow any woman’s mind!

Are You Tempted by Girl on Girl?

Would you like to know what it feels like to sleep with another woman? Do you catch yourself checking out the hotties and wondering what it would be like to get naked with them? So did I until I gave it a go…

A lot of women fantasize about or would like to try girl on girl action. Some women would just like to know what it would be like to kiss another girl. Some women would actually like to explore another woman’s body. Many women have tried it and enjoyed it enough to try again. Some women are just happy with the one experience so they know what it is like. Some women along with their partner would like to try a threesome with another woman.

If you are tempted by girl on girl then read on…

First thing you need to do is to accept that it is a perfectly natural thing to be interested in. It doesn’t mean you will experience an instant transformation into a big, butch lesbian! Unless of course you want to in which case I say go for it! 😉

It is on the other hand a cool and fun experience to try so if you are tempted then do your best to let go of any silly fears of instantly turning gay! (Not that it would be a bad thing but you get my drift)

If you want to give it a go there are two main areas you need to think about.

First of all is finding the right girl. This can be tricky but don’t worry just keep reading for some advice.

Second you need the skills and the “know how” to make sure you both have a good time.

Finding the right girl… The pro’s and con’s

Experimenting with a friend – The pro’s are you already know each other, trust each other, care for each other and probably already have a spark of chemistry. The con’s are it might (if you let it) ruin a valuable friendship.

The Internet – The pro’s are the people you meet will be strangers this means they are less likely to be freaked out by your bi-sexual nature and if it doesn’t work out you won’t lose someone close to you. Also you can look at the pictures to see if you fancy them, read their profiles to see if they are your type of person and it’s easy to find ladies that are looking for girl on girl fun. The con’s are they may not be who they say they are. There is a slight risk of danger and you don’t really get to know the person until you meet them in the real world.

Socializing in bars/clubs – The pro’s are you get to know what they look like, its easy to flirt with girls when they are in party mode and you know that you are reasonably safe (as long as you are in a public place when you get to know them). The con’s are you may make a mistake because of the alcohol and you may struggle to find a gay/bi lady that’s interested.

How to make it fun…

Don’t get too drunk.
Make sure you pick the right girl. Chemistry is more important than looks.
Make sure your atmosphere is right at home I.E. Music, candles and NO children.
Take it slowly.
Don’t worry too much about making her cum.
Focus on having fun and exploring each others bodies.

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Love