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Plastic Pussies Hypocrisy!!!

Why is it ok for women to use plastic cocks but not for men to use plastic pussies??? Is there a double standard going on here???

For years now and especially since Sex in the City promoted the Rampant Rabbit it has been cool for women to use sex toys to pleasure themselves. Now let me be very clear, I think this is a good thing. I am not complaining about it at all.

But what I do have an issue with, is that fact that in my experience it is not socially acceptable or “cool” for a man to use a sex toy on his own. Plastic cocks seem fine for women to play with but plastic pussies still carry a stigma of being uncool, or even worse sleazy or desperate.

If my experience is true and this is the case it begs the question as to why is it so? Why is it acceptable for women to fuck themselves silly with a plastic cock but not the same for a guy who wants to fuck the life out of a plastic pussy?

There seems to be a double standard going on here. Is it because we assume women use toys for masturbation out of choice? While guys only use them because they are needy and desperate? If so is this fair? I think not!

I think I am right about this. I think there is a certain stigma about men using adult toys for masturbation. But I also think that this might be starting to change.

There are more fashionable brands making plastic pussies for guys. Adding slick marketing and great design to a product that has been around for a very long time. As this continues, more guys will be tempted, some of them will even admit to their friends or their girlfriends that they own one and as this happens it will slowly become normal for guys to own them.

I certainly hope this is what happens. I don’t like gender based double standards and hypocrisy in either direction. I don’t like judgment or stigma around harmless and positive sexual behaviors. I also believe that as long as no one gets hurt the more people (male, female and transgender), exploring and experimenting with their sexuality in whatever way they choose the better the world will be!

So if you are a woman why not treat your man to a plastic pussy? If you are a man have you thought about giving one a go? If so would you tell your mates or your girlfriend about it?

(We stock them here in our store if you are interested…)

Let me know what you think in the comments section below I would love to know what you think about it?

Have a good one!

PS – Check out these blog posts on the best sex toys for women here and this blog post on sex toys for boys

Lola’s in Love! Why I Love My Sex Toys

I’m in love and its with some battery powered pieces of plastic. I love my sexy adult toys and think every girl should have a good collection of them…

Sex toys are great! I love them because they take away my frustrations and replace them with warm happy vibes (pun intended). I take them everywhere with me, I have too! Sometimes it’s the only way of dealing with life’s pressures. I can’t live without my trusty toys and the day my vibrators break is the day I buy new ones.

I also love using different sex toys with my partners because it’s fun, experimental and adds variety to longer sex sessions. Here are some of my favorites…

G-spot vibrators are my all time favorite ever. I hope who ever invented them is a millionaire because they deserve to be. I have helped five good friends find their g-spot by recommending this toy… It’s a winner.

Clit vibes are my second best friend. Cumming from both vaginal and clitoral stimulation at the same time is a massive thrill for me and I recommend it to any lady.

Anal beads and anal vibrators are a fantastic invention for fun antics. Tip… Try pulling them out as your partner orgasms to make the orgasm much more intense.

Whips and paddles. If you are like me and like a little pain then these gems are a must in your toy box. There not just for spanking an ass, try lightly whipping pussy for a buzz that makes you cry for more!

Restraints. They don’t have to be handcuffs, try silk ties or girlie belts. Being tied up and unable to touch yourself or your partner is a sure way of driving you wild.

Cock rings are awesome for cow girl position. It’s a rubber band with a small vibrator attached to it that fits on the man’s penis and can help you reach orgasm through your clit while you ride his penis so it’s on your g-spot.

Ladies… Using sex toys on yourself can help you explore your sexuality and help you understand how your body works. Using them with your partner helps give him a better understanding of how and what you like.

Guys… Please don’t feel threatened by sex toys, women love the real thing much more than anything else it’s just they love their toys as well.

I know there are many more toys on the market so comment below and tell us what they are and why you like them. Click here to check out our huge range of sex toys (all at super low prices…)

Love

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How to Use Adult Toys

How to use adult toys. Easy to follow, simple sex toy advice to help you get the most from your toys either on your own or with your partner…

Simple to follow advice for both men and women.

So my guess is that if you are reading this blog post about how to use adult toys it is for one of two main reasons:

You want to use the toys for masturbation.
You want to use the toys with your lover.

I will break these questions down into two sections and keep it nice and simple so that you can start having fun as quickly as possible.

Adult toy advice for flying solo (masturbation):

Toys for women – The big two are vibrators and dildos. Obviously even within these two categories there is a huge amount of choice and variation. One thing I think is essential for every woman is a good g-spot vibrator to give vaginal orgasms.
Toys for men – The most common masturbation toys for men are plastic pussies and prostrate vibrators. Plastic pussies are becoming much more popular especially with brands like Flesh Light making such good quality toys. Prostate vibes are designed to hit the male g-spot (known as the p-spot) inside the man’s butt.
The right time and place – For your first experimentations with new toys, I really recommend you pick a safe time and place where you know you wont be disturbed or over heard. This way you can relax and enjoy your sexy fun in peace.
It might feel strange at first – Some can feel a bit weird at first, but don’t worry this is perfectly normal and you will get over it with time and practice.
Explore – Try anything that takes your fancy. It’s your toy and it’s your body so do what ever you want and see how it feels.
Anal play advice – If you want to experiment with anal play you need to remember to use a lot of lube. The anus doesn’t have its own natural lubrication so you need to keep things nice and lubed up.
The more you do it the better it gets – Like everything else in life the more you practice the better you get at doing it. Let’s be honest there are much worse things that you could be having to do again and again and again…! 😉

How to use them with your partner:

Communication is the key to success – As with everything to do with relationships and sex the more you talk to each other the better it will be. Talk things over, set some boundaries (if you need to) and decide what you would like to try.
Build up the excitement – Flirt by talking dirty, sexy texts, and whatever it takes so that by the time you guys get the toys out you are already really, really turned on!
Toys for couples – Check out some of the toys for couples. From anal beads and vibrating cock rings, to sex furniture or bondage restraints.
Get a little bit tipsy – Now I’m not saying this is a must, but let’s be honest after a couple of drinks we all tend to relax and let out hair down a bit!
Play around and have fun – They are called “Toys” for a reason! It’s because they are designed to help you have fun. So take the pressure off yourselves (you don’t have to be perfect lovers) and just play!
Watch and learn – If you want to learn how to use a toy on your partner the best thing to do is give it to them, sit back and watch the show!
A couple that cums together stays together – The more sexy fun you have together the stronger your relationship will be. Even if you are just fuck buddies, the more sex you have the better buddies you will be!
Practice sure does make perfect – Do I have to say this twice…??? 😉

So now you know how to use adult toys, all you need to do is click here, visit my store and treat yourself to something amazing…!

Love

How to Use a Dildo

Would you like to have some fun with a dildo? Maybe you want to use one on your partner? Or on yourself? Follow this easy advice and start having fun with you new toys…

Everything You Need to Know

So my guess is that if you want to know how to use a dildo on a woman it is for one of three fairly obvious reasons:

You want to use it on yourself.
You want to use it on a female partner.
You want to know how to fuck someone with a strap-on dildo.

The first two I will cover in this blog post but for the third click here to learn how to use a strap-on…

How to use a one for masturbation:

Pick the right time – There is nothing wrong with masturbating or playing with dildos BUT if you were to get caught by someone it could be VERY embarrassing. So pick a time and place where you know you will not get disturbed that way you can relax, enjoy and play in peace.
Use fantasy or sexy stories – The first few times you use your new dildo it might feel a bit weird, so use fantasies to get yourself feeling super horny before you start.
Put lube on the dildo and your pussy – (Your ass as well if you want to try it). Lube is great, it makes everything feel much more sexy and is essential if you want to experiment with anal play. My advice is to use lots of it and always more than you think you need.
Relax and explore – If you want to fuck yourself really hard with your toy GO FOR IT. It you want to grind your Clit against it GO FOR IT. If you want to try putting it in your ass GO FOR IT. It’s your body and you have the right to do whatever you want with it.
Let your body tell you what it needs – Try and focus on the sensations of pleasure and let your body tell you what it wants.
See if you can find your g-spot – Dildos are great for hitting that special spot inside your pussy, especially the ones with a bend in them.
Stimulate your clit with your fingers or a vibe – Try filling your pussy with the dildo and then working your clit with your fingers or a vibe. This will give you a very, very intense orgasm…You will love it!
Don’t stop until you cum (The do it again) – Keep going until you climax, catch your breath and then do it again. After all practice does make perfect! 😉
If you like being stretched buy a bigger one! – Sometimes the feeling of a huge toy inside you can be amazing! Don’t forget to put plenty of lube on first though.

How to one on a woman:

Get her in the right mood – She will find it much, much easier to cum if she is relaxed and already feeling horny. So do whatever it takes to get her in the right frame of mind.
Warm her up with foreplay and talking dirty – The more you turn her on the more fun you will both have with the toy.
Cover her pussy and the toy in lube – Lube just makes sex better. It’s that simple, the more lube the better (especially for anal play where it is essential).
Explore – Play around rub it on her clit, push it slowly inside her, see how she reacts.
Use your fingers or tongue on her clit, or let her play while you fuck her – As you fuck her with the dildo make sure either you or she works her clit, that way when she cums it will be very, very intense.
Watch and learn – This one tip is so important! If you don’t know what to do or you struggle to turn her on just give her the toy, sit back, watch and learn.
Make her cum or let her finish herself off – If you can’t make her cum yourself tell her to make herself cum and learn what she does for the next time.
Practice, it’s all about the practice – With all sexy skills the more you try it the better you will get and the better you get the more fun you will both have.

So now you need to treat yourself to some sexy new dildos, click here to browse our huge range of top quality adult toys…

Love

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How to Use a Vibrator

Do you want to learn how to use a vibrator? Are you interested in using one on yourself? Or on your partner? Find out everything you need to know in this blog post…

Easy to follow tips and advice.

If you want to find out how to use a vibrator on a woman its probably for one of two reasons:

You want to know how to use one on yourself.
You want to use one on your female partner.

Using a vibe for masturbation:

Make sure you wont be disturbed or over heard – There is nothing wrong with what you are doing but it still could be pretty embarrassing if you get caught. Pick a time and a place where you know you can sit back, relax and enjoy your new toy to the max.
Make sure you have plenty of batteries – If your toy needs batteries make sure you have new ones and even some spares (trust me there is nothing more disappointing than running out of power when you need it the most!). If you use toys a lot I really recommend investing in ones with built in rechargeable batteries just like you have for an electric toothbrush or a phone.
Use fantasy if it helps you get super horny – I love fantasizing, it always gets me in the right mood. If you need some inspiration check out our sexy stories on this link…
Start off with the settings on low – Don’t crank the power up straight away, it is always nice to leave a little more intensity for when you really crave it.
Explore the three main areas – Inside your pussy, your clit and your butt (if you like the idea of it). This is your toy and your body. Explore it in whatever way feels good to you. If you want to tickle your butt with it then go for it! If you want to fuck your pussy really hard with it then go for that as well. If you want soft gentle vibes on the tip of your clit then please do it and enjoy it. (I love doing all three of these by the way tee hee hee 😉 )
Relax and let your body tell you what it wants – When you first use a sex toy it might feel a bit strange. This is perfectly normal, just keep going and let the sensations in your body tell you what it needs to reach orgasm.
Practice makes perfect – Like every other skill, playing with toys gets better with practice…YIPPPEEEE! That means you need to spend a lot of time playing and each time you do it you will get better and better.

Using a vibe on your lady:

Get her in the mood – Women usually get turned on like a volume knob, slowly and gradually rather than an on/off switch like men. By using dirty talk, making her feel relaxed and giving her lots of foreplay you will have her begging you to use the vibe on her.
Tease her first and warm her up – Don’t dive straight in it, try to tease her a bit first. Maybe tickle her nipples with the toy. Try running it over her feet or up the inside of her thighs. This will build up the anticipation, the desire and sexual tension.
Be gentle at first – Ladies can be very sensitive, especially on the tip of their clitoris. So don’t turn the vibrations up too full and don’t apply too much pressure when you start using the toy on her pussy.
Explore the areas she will find sexiest – Run it up and down her pussy lips, tickle her ass with it, slide it inside her and use it on her clit.
Explore her g-spot – If you don’t know what or where the g-spot is read this link on G-spots
Anal play with a vibrator – Some ladies love having their ass stimulated or even fucked with a vibe. Two things to remember about this. Firstly only go there if she is cool with it. Secondly whenever doing any sort of anal play always use a lot of lube…The more the better!
Watch and listen to her signals – Women tend to give a lot of signals as to what they do and don’t like. Moans and groans, little hip wiggles, heavy breathing etc. If you can read these signals you can become a seriously good lover as this is the secret key to her deepest desires.
Increase the pressure, speed and intensity when you want her to cum – Turn up the vibe and move it faster. Do this gradually and watch to see if she enjoys it. You can even ask her if she likes it, but usually it will be very obvious.
If you struggle, give it to her, watch and learn – Using a vibe on a woman can be tricky at first. If you are not getting her horny, give her the toy and tell her to show you what she likes. Watch, learn and then try to do the same.
Practice makes perfect – Yes the more you do this the better you will get. By the way, if you ever want more sex or more blow-jobs the best thing to do is get very good at giving her orgasms and then she will be much more likely to repay the favor.

So now you know exactly how to use a vibe why not check out my sex toy shop and treat yourself or your lady to a new sex play toy or two…

Love