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Woman on Top – Ride ’em Cowgirl!

I love being on top. I like being in control. I like teasing my man and I like being able to have the power of deciding when we both cum.

Why do I love being on top? It’s easy… I have control. No messing about, no missing the spot, no rhythm lost. Just bang, bang on my g-spot, Thank you very much!

All I need to do is move my hips until his cock hits the right spot and an orgasm is guaranteed. Personally, the right sort of fuck buddy for me is a man who will lie back and let me do my thing.

I also love watching my man ogle my boobs as they move with my rhythm. Getting transfixed with the way my body rocks and looking deep in to my eyes as my orgasm takes over. I know it turns them on, why wouldn’t it? Unless they have control issues and then they’re out the door anyway 😉 . Any decent man wants their lady to get pleasure out of sex and that is exactly what happens when I get on top.

When I’m on top it’s not just a vaginal orgasm or clitoral, it’s both at the same time… My favorite! I get to pull on his penis with the walls of my pussy and I get to grind my clitoris against him. I choose the strokes and I chose when I cum and being on top means I can cum again and again. I love multiple orgasms! In fact I can’t get enough of them. Call me greedy if you like but hey, it’s not my fault men have usually had enough after one orgasm!

I also get to chose when and how he gets to cum. There are multiple ways of getting him there and depending on how I feel and how quick I want us both to orgasm, I will chose what is best for the time. Usually after I have cum two or three times, I will decide its time for him to let go. Instead of grinding on his cock I will bounce up and down (so he gets more stimulation), I will tell him I want him to cum and then I will watch him go crazy with excitement.

All in all being on top is amazing fun. I get to feel in control. I get to cum lots of times and whenever I chose! He gets a great view of me and my boobs. I even get more control over when he cums and as us ladies know that can only be a good thing!

Ladies, if you don’t know how to have vaginal orgasms you can start by reading this detailed article on vaginal orgasms (my step by step guide). Also feel free to join our sexy community, so you can ask questions one on one.

Advice for you men – Practice kegel exercises. With practice you will be able to last a lot longer and can even join the world of multiple orgasms. All it takes is practice and following the rules. (Check out this link on ejaculation control here).

Please leave your comments I would love to know what you think of my blog?

Love

How I Discovered My Deep Spot!

The deep spot is amazing. If you don’t know what, or where it is, you NEED to read this post!!!

A few years ago I discovered my deep spot.
Well to be more accurate my boyfriend at the time discovered it for me!

I had been seeing him for a while and we already had great sex together but this time was different, he started fingering me really deeply and hit on a spot I had never felt before. The sensations were really intense and it wasn’t long before I had a massive vaginal orgasm that left me in a hot sweaty mess! As I was recovering he looked up at me with a cheeky smile and said “you don’t know about that little spot did ya?”

He was right, I didn’t but I was determined to find out more. As soon as he went to work I got my toys out and started to experiment. It wasn’t easy at first (deep spot stimulation is much easier when done by someone else) but I got there and soon got much better at it. (BTW – If you don’t know what it is then you need to read this deep spot blog post!)

Now I can use my toys to give myself intense vaginal orgasms whenever I want and it is a great addition to my sexual self-loving repertoire.

Since learning how to do it for myself I have tried to show my lovers how to do it for me, but so far none have managed. The truth is it’s not that easy at first and like most things it takes a little bit of practice to get good at it. But trust me with the deep spot it is definitely worth the effort!

Months later I went back to my now ex boyfriend who first found it for me and asked him how he found out about it.
He told me he discovered it from a guy called David Shade. He has a website with a video on how to stimulate the deep spot you can check it out here…

In fact just recently I slept with a guy who hit my deep spot again and again, I asked him and he was a fan of Mr. Shade as well!

So ladies either check out this video for yourself or even better copy and paste this link and send it via email to your partner.

Men you have got to watch this video… It’s the easiest, most effective, most powerful way to make a woman cum. Once you learn it you will have the knowledge and the confidence to turn any woman into a trembling mess of sexy gratitude for the feelings you can give her!

Make sure you post below once you have found the deep spot and had some fun with it.

Love

Pleasure and Pain in the Bedroom

Do you like to feel pain during foreplay and sex? Do you think you might but you aren’t sure how to give it a go, or how to bring it up with your partner…?

My Personal Take…

I’m addicted to pain in the bedroom. I can say without a doubt it increases my libido and heightens my sexual arousal A LOT. In fact I can’t get enough of it.

Here’s an interesting thing about sex and pain…I have a friend (who’s gay) that thinks it’s funny to give me agonizing “nipple cripple’s” (he twists my nipple through my clothes to make me squeal) whenever he sees me. This hurts, a lot and I don’t enjoy it! But when I am enjoying foreplay and sex then all of a sudden I’m begging my partner to do the same. In that frame of mind the exact same thing feels like a sexy tickle. Something that would normally be painful becomes arousing and pleasurable during sexual contact.

Why is this?

During sexual intercourse there are endorphins that are released in the brain. These compounds have pain killing properties which increase the threshold for pain. Consequently pain tolerance is increased during sex.

When I experience pain during sex I can’t help but think thoughts like ‘he’s hurting me but it feels so good’ or ‘I’m such a dirty bitch’. This increases my levels of arousal and gets me hornier. Don’t get me wrong, soft, sensual strokes and caresses can feel amazing but sometimes I prefer it rough and painful!

Here are some examples of play-pain that I like:

Having my hair being pulled not only increases my pleasure because of the pain but it also helps my mind fall into fantasy world that I secretly desire.

Having my nipples bitten and squeezed hard drives my libido up the wall… I can’t get enough of it.

Spanking is horny as hell. I like the pain of a good hard spanking but also love the feeling being dominated and punished for being a naughty little bitch.

Giving and receiving pain can be a great addition to any sexual relationship when done within boundaries and when both partners are aware of what is happening. Why not give it a go? Start slow and know your limits. Experiment with each other and have fun.

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Love

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How Honest Can You Be With Your Partner?

Are you honest with your partner about your true secret desires. Do you tell him or her everything? Do you even think this is a good idea?

Talking about sex especially in a relationship can be a tricky area. Jealousy, insecurity and other fears often prevent men and women from being honest about their sexual desires and needs.

For example:
The man might want a threesome with another woman. The woman might want to try anal sex but fears that he will think she is too dirty if she asks so she pretends the idea doesn’t turn her on. The man might like to try having something up his ass but is scared because he is worried she might think this means he is gay. In my opinion all this stuff is BS, its just our own personal fears getting in the way of us having more fun!

How to overcome this?

There are no answers as such, but there is common ground and common sense, and there are some steps you can take to get this handled. Make sure you are honest with each other and that by being honest you are trying to improve your sex life rather than to cause unnecessary pain, stress and drama.

You must fight your fears of being judged because if you don’t, then not only will you be always wondering “what if?” but you may also be tempted to stray as time goes by (and you don’t want that!).

Ladies and gentleman what do you think to my short and to the point post? Could I give more detail? Please feel free to comment and tell me what I’ve missed?

I would also love to hear any suggestions for future blog posts. Is there anything you would like me to blog about? Or is there something you would like to blog about (no spam allowed!)

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Love

Spanking for Beginners – My Top 10 Tips

Do you like the idea of spanking or being spanked. Either way it can be a lot of fun! Check out these easy to follow tips and advice to make it as sexy and erotic as possible…

Spanking for beginners can be one of two things:

1. A sexy way to have fun with your lover
2. A painful or embarrassing experiment that you never try again!

Personally, I really enjoy spanking a lady’s ass. Especially if it’s slightly chubby, so it wobbles as I spank it :-). Spanking can be great fun, it feels naughty, sexy and kinky all at the same time. So if you want to add spanking to your repertoire of sexual activities check out my ten top tips:

Who’s doing what? – Decide who wants to spank and who wants to be spanked. OK, this one is pretty damned obvious but still don’t make any assumptions. You never know what sexual desires could be lurking deep within your partner! If you are both beginners, perhaps you should each try both roles and see who prefers doing what?

Get in the mood – Spanking is best done when in the right mood. Sometimes soft, gentle, cuddly sex is right for the moment but on other occasions harder, kinkier, dirtier sex is much more fun. Pick the right time and use fantasy, naughty texts, role plays and whatever else you fancy to help get you in the right frame of mind for giving it a go.

Create a safety word – Some people like to say no when they mean yes during spanking. It’s part of the fun of being dominated, but this can cause obvious problems if you’re not careful. How will the spanker know when to stop if he or she has been told to ignore words like “no” or “please stop”? This is where the safety word comes in. Pick a word that will stand out and immediately tell your lover that you have had enough.

Massage oil – This is a personal favorite of mine. Massaging some sort of oil into a butt before it gets spanked is great fun. It makes the spanks sound and feel better plus in my opinion an oily butt often looks better than one without a shine to it.

Picking the sweet spot – This takes practice and every cheek is different. Start off gently and try to find the fleshiest, curviest bit of the butt to spank. You will know you have found it, as it will feel great when you strike it.

The perfect spank – Again this takes practice and you need to aim for the sweet spot (see above). As you try spanking, some strikes will feel really great, something about the timing of the motion and how your hand meets the ass will be just perfect and both you and your partner will know it’s a good one!

Rhythm – Experiment with varying the rhythm, from slow and steady to sharp and fast. Try various tempos and see what reaction you get from the person you are spanking.

Build the intensity – Start off slowly and gently. As blood starts to flow to the person’s ass their pain threshold will go up slightly. So once you have warmed them up you can go harder and faster without hurting them (too much 😉 ).

From cheek to cheek – Don’t just hit the one spot again and again. Swap from cheek to cheek and work your hand all around the fleshy area. If you just concentrate on one area for too long the pain will very quickly get too much!

Spanking paddles – From the perspective of the spanker they stop your hand from getting sore and allow you to use more power in your spanking. From the perspective of being spanked if you like it hard then your need to make sure you’re being spanked with a paddle!

Interesting spanking fact: Experiencing sensations of pain releases feel good hormones into the body. So by pushing your boundaries and getting a good hard spanking you are likely to have much more intense orgasms.

There you go, some tips about spanking for noobies. We have a whole community of sexy people sharing tips and advice on sex, spanking and fantasies. You can join (for free) here and get involved in the fun…

Have a good one!

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