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The problem with men sex and the internet. A letter to our ladies.

OMG. WHAT IS WRONG WITH SOME GUYS AND THE WAY THEY BEHAVE ONLINE….!!!????!!!

I wanted to write directly to you as a female member of our community to address some potential concerns I have with your enjoyment of our site.

Having been online in lots of different websites and communities I have witnessed way too many badly behaved men annoying the female users.

The pattern of behavior usually goes something like this:

Sending crappy copy and pasted emails to hundreds of women in the hope someone will bite.
Repeatedly sending PM’s to the same woman even though she ignored them or politely declined.
Repeatedly sending chat requests to the same or multiple women.
Sending totally inappropriate sexual msgs. Yes even on an erotica site. There is a time and a place for filth!
Ignoring any polite rejections.
Even worse reacting badly to rejections and becoming either way over the top and needy OR aggressive and judgmental to the woman who rejects them.
Ladies – If you have anymore just post them in the comments section and I will happily add them to the list!

If you are female and have been on any sort of dating, sex or erotica site I have no doubt that some or all of these will sound familiar to you. If so please read on.

Why do they behave like this?

A lot of this is about not knowing how to spark attraction, how to flirt and how to respect women’s boundaries. I’ve put some tips below for any guys reading this post.

Another major factor is an inability to handle rejection. Lots of people don’t like to hear the word “no”. But in dating its usually the guy who makes the first move and as such it’s the guy who more often than not hears the word no. Even if he is fairly cool with rejection after a while of hearing “no” after “no” he might get frustrated. (Especially if he isn’t very good at flirting or interacting with the women he finds attractive).

Finally some people are just fucking ass-holes that should be put head first in the nearest trash can! 😉

What can you do about it?

If you are a lady and you are getting unwanted attention for guys on Secret Erotica here are some tips to help solve the problem as quickly and as easily as possible:

Don’t get into an argument or start being abusive back. It’s not worth the effort!
Politely ask him not to contact you.
If he ignores your request go to his profile page and block him.
Once he is blocked he wont be able to hassle you from the same profile. But if he creates another profile just to harass you please let us know immediately and we will block him at the IP level which will make it almost impossible for him to get back on to the site.
If you have any concerns, issues or questions about this please just contact us within the community or by our contact form on this page.

Are you a guy and want to improve your online skills with the ladies?

Here are some quick does and don’ts to help you on your way:

Do add an interesting profile with some cool, funny, sexy images.
Do join lots of groups and interact in them.
Do join in the activity on the main wall.
Do check out our premium membership.
Do write some hot sexy stories and share them in the community.
DON’T bombard anyone with chat requests, comments or PM’s.
DON’T create more than one profile to use to chase anyone.
DON’T get all needy and whiny if a lady rejects you.
DON’T EVER get grumpy, aggressive or judgmental if you get rejected. Our female members have every right to say no, so just grow a pair and deal with it!

Ladies – If you are sick of brain dead men, why not treat yourself to a luxury sex toy and forget about your men troubles…?

Guys – If you have any questions about improving your profile give Lola a shout using the mention tag @lola or by sending her a private msg.

Please feel free to comment below with any questions, comments or other annoying things you might want to add to the list. Maybe you’ve got a funny story to share…?

Have a good one!

When is it ok to Objectify Women?

Is it every ok to sexually objectify women? If so when is it ok and when is it not ok?

So it’s confession time, I’ve always wondered what was so bad about objectifying women? I look at a pretty lady, I am attracted and I want to fuck her.
This feels perfectly natural to me! If this is objectifying women then I am guilty.

The other day I happened to come across a YouTube video on the subject. The vid was from Laci Green and as I am a huge fan of her videos I gave it a watch.

In short this video is really cool in my opinion, she makes some great points including:

What sexual objectification is (and isn’t).
How to not confuse sexual attraction with sexual objectification (like I did above).
How the objectification of women damages men as well as women.
When it is ok to objectify women and men.

So, I’m going to shut up now and let you enjoy the awesomeness that is Laci Green, check it out!

So what are your thoughts? Do you agree or disagree?

Are you going to rush out and subscribe to Laci Green’s YouTube channel

Or are you going to leave an angry comment below disagreeing with every word in the video?
Either way let me know your thoughts.

I am no expert on feminist theory so I would love to know what you think about all of this?

Have a good one!

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Lola’s in Love! Why I Love My Sex Toys

I’m in love and its with some battery powered pieces of plastic. I love my sexy adult toys and think every girl should have a good collection of them…

Sex toys are great! I love them because they take away my frustrations and replace them with warm happy vibes (pun intended). I take them everywhere with me, I have too! Sometimes it’s the only way of dealing with life’s pressures. I can’t live without my trusty toys and the day my vibrators break is the day I buy new ones.

I also love using different sex toys with my partners because it’s fun, experimental and adds variety to longer sex sessions. Here are some of my favorites…

G-spot vibrators are my all time favorite ever. I hope who ever invented them is a millionaire because they deserve to be. I have helped five good friends find their g-spot by recommending this toy… It’s a winner.

Clit vibes are my second best friend. Cumming from both vaginal and clitoral stimulation at the same time is a massive thrill for me and I recommend it to any lady.

Anal beads and anal vibrators are a fantastic invention for fun antics. Tip… Try pulling them out as your partner orgasms to make the orgasm much more intense.

Whips and paddles. If you are like me and like a little pain then these gems are a must in your toy box. There not just for spanking an ass, try lightly whipping pussy for a buzz that makes you cry for more!

Restraints. They don’t have to be handcuffs, try silk ties or girlie belts. Being tied up and unable to touch yourself or your partner is a sure way of driving you wild.

Cock rings are awesome for cow girl position. It’s a rubber band with a small vibrator attached to it that fits on the man’s penis and can help you reach orgasm through your clit while you ride his penis so it’s on your g-spot.

Ladies… Using sex toys on yourself can help you explore your sexuality and help you understand how your body works. Using them with your partner helps give him a better understanding of how and what you like.

Guys… Please don’t feel threatened by sex toys, women love the real thing much more than anything else it’s just they love their toys as well.

I know there are many more toys on the market so comment below and tell us what they are and why you like them. Click here to check out our huge range of sex toys (all at super low prices…)

Love

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How to Have Anal sex

Do you want to have anal sex? Do you want to try it but are a bit worried about how to do it right? Check out this post for some easy to follow simple advice, then go and give it a go..!

Check out these easy to learn, tips and techniques to teach you how to have anal sex. Not only will they teach you how to do it, it will also help you make sure it’s lots of fun!

Talk about it – Before you try it, talk it over with your partner. Make sure you are both keen to try it, that you feel comfortable giving it a go and that you both remember it is just a fun new thing for you to try together.
Fantasize – Lots of people forget this one and it is a shame. It is such good fun and it makes it all so much easier. Anal sex is much less likely to hurt if you are feeling really relaxed and horny. Talk dirty (LINK to silo) to each other about it, use naughty texts and emails, do anything that builds up the sexual excitement and anticipation.
Prepare and pick the right time – Whoever is on the receiving end needs to feel comfy. If they have a bad stomach or are a bit constipated this is not the time to give it a go! Make some extra effort to make your environment relaxing and sexy. Candles, music and long bath, whatever takes your fancy and helps get you horny.
Lube – Lube is really, really important for anal sex. There is no natural lubrication in the anus and also it is very, very tight. Lube will make it much easier and also much more fun. So put some lube on, then put more lube on, then…Well you get the picture, just use a LOT of lube!
Fingers and toys – If you start off by inserting a finger or a very small sex toy, this will help a lot. It opens up the rectum, helps it relax and will help eliminate the pain from inserting anything bigger.
Butt plugs – Butt plugs are a really useful and effective way to help you have anal sex. Again like inserting other toys, they help the anus open up and relax so that when you insert a larger object it is ready for it.
Start off very slowly – When you insert the penis start really slowly. Put the tip in, then take it out again. Then do this again but go in a little further. Keep repeating this but going deeper and deeper each time. This reduces the pain to a minimum and also increases the pleasure.
The initial pain goes away – Most people will feel some pain when the cock is first inserted. But if you breathe and relax this will soon go away and be replaced with much, much more pleasurable sensations!
It might take a few times to master it – Don’t be put off if it doesn’t work the first time. Take a break and try again. Trust me it will be worth it.
It can be amazing fun – Anal sex can be great fun and can give really intense anal orgasms. So don’t let fear stop you give it a go and ENJOY IT!

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Some things to remember about anal sex.

It doesn’t have to hurt – If you learn how to have anal sex properly using the tips above it doesn’t have to be too painful. The initial pain of the penis being inserted soon goes away.
It doesn’t have to be dirty – If you prepare and pick your time right anal sex doesn’t have to be dirty.
There is nothing wrong with it – If you think there is something wrong with anal sex try to let go of this. In my opinion it is just another really fun, sexy way of enjoying our bodies and there is nothing wrong with it whatsoever.
It can go wrong if you don’t take care – If you rush it or don’t prepare properly it can hurt a lot. So NEVER rush it and always follow the advice above.
Safe sex is very important – Anal sex is much more likely to transmit some types of STD’s so always practice safe sex and wear extra strong condoms unless in a committed relationship.

So I hope this helps you learn how to enjoy some anal fun. If you have any questions please use the comment box below and I will reply asap.

Love

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How to Lick Pussy – A Beginners Guide

Expert pussy licking advice for beginners. Learn everything you need to know and then go have some fun..!

I love going down on women. I love the power of it. I love the taste of it and I love the feeling of knowing I can give my partner mind blowing orgasms with my tongue and my fingers. Because I love it so much, I’ve gotten pretty good at it (practice make perfect after all 😉 ). So if you want some tips on how to improve your pussy licking skills check out this list. (Also check out this post for female advice on how to lick pussy)

Get her in the right position – If you are in bed or on the floor put a cushion or pillow under her butt. This raises her pussy and makes it easier for you to lick and finger it at the same time. If you sit her on a chair and kneel in front of her this is another great way to get the right angle for tongue and finger action.

Have some lube ready before you start – If possible I like to have my lube ready so I’m not fumbling about in a drawer looking for it when it’s needed.

Kiss her whole body – Kiss every inch of her body. Tease her. Get close to her pussy and then move away. Do this again and again until she begs you to lick her out. WOMEN LOVE BEING TEASED!

Kiss her through her panties – An ex-girlfriend taught me this one. Women love the different sensation of being licked through their panties.

Use your breath to tease her even more – As you get ready to kiss her pussy, let your hot breath drift across her lips. Blow gently and deeply, teasing her until she can’t take it…

Kiss all her pussy – Don’t go straight for the clit, but pay attention to all of her. Suck her lips, lick all over her pussy and force your tongue deep inside her.

Zone in on the clit – Once you’ve teased and licked her whole body and after you have given all of her pussy some loving…Zone in on her clit. Start off gently and then increase the pressure and the speed of your tongue as she gives you the right signals from her body and the noises she makes.

Apply some lube and finger her pussy – Ideally I like to make a woman cum 2-3 times when I go down on her. The first time I just lick her clit, the second time I also finger her pussy and the third time I will finger her ass and her pussy as well. Fingering a girl whilst licking her clit can take a bit of practice but any woman will tell you it is worth the effort as the fingering will amplify and intensify her orgasm.

A note about lube – Most women like it if you use lube every time you finger them. It feels better for her and stops any friction causing uncomfortable sensations (especially during longer sessions of play.) Experiment with different types until you find one you both like.

If she is game, finger her ass – For some women a finger up the ass is a big no-no but for others it’s a short cut to sexual heaven so make sure you find your ladies’ preference before you start. ALWAYS use lube for anal play (the more the better) and be gentle. Lick her clit, finger both her pussy and ass and you will take her to sexual heaven!

After she has cum – After a woman has cum, she will be feeling intense sensations. Her skin will be highly sensitive and she will feel a warm glow of satisfaction deep inside her. When I’ve made a woman cum, I always like to pull her into me, stroke her skin, play with her hair and hug her tight. I want her to feel warm and safe so she can revel in the feelings she is experiencing.

Have a good one!

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